Uzaki-chan wa Asobitai! - Ch. 106.1 - Kouhai and Determination (Part 1)

[itmealice]

her face at the end has me worried

 

[Very_Cool_Guy]

They HAVE known each other since high school, but they've only been in a relationship for a few months, it's a bit soon to be proposing.

 

[wrpd_mnd]

People seem to be assuming Uzaki is going to agree. She's not. She knows he's asking out of a misplaced sentiment of responsibility and she's not going to go for it. Times like this are when she is the rational one.

 

[CrimsonSix]

...The hell?

 

[Berta545]

Marry and reproduce

 

[Donutlie]

Uh ???

 

[ThreeTakeWonder]

Ok, but sex though?

 

[Ultenth]

Bro. It works for some people and it doesn't for others. Sex is a learning curve.

99/100 times if someone is waiting for marriage to have sex, they are extremely unlikely to actually attempt to research and learn from other people, or experiment and communicate with their partner to get good at it on their own. They will just assume their partner is satisfied because they aren't complaining, and go on with their day. This is not a small sample size or uncommon thing, it's not a mystery or controversial topic, if you hang around with any women that are willing to talk about sex around you, you'd know this is an extremely common complaint. If you're one of the few people that waited, and then actually cared enough about it, your partner, and had the willingness and openness to get good at it after marriage, awesome, you're in an extremely small minority.

And of course it's a learning curve, that's my whole point. It's something you get good at, just like anything else. If you're too scared and puritanical about it that you don't do it until marriage, it's highly likely it's stigmatized so much that you won't be encouraged to actually put in the effort to get skilled at it, even with your marriage partner.

 

[Nick86]

This is just one of these manga clichè forced by some publisher on certain magazines, seggs only after married as a final trial.

 

[Lex79]

Wasn't expecting this.. now please don't just end the manga after the wedding without showing their first time.

 

[xXPenisXx]

It would be kinda hilarious if they get married before sex just like a Christian couple, and later find out one of them is irredeemably unfixably terrible in bed and hates sex, and the other has a massive sex drive and is terrific at pleasing their partner. So, just like a lot of Christian couples that never find out if they are sexually compatible before marriage.

Please tell your therapist this instead of MD comments.

 

[Miriable]

"Look, I like you a lot, but I have to warn you: if my self-control slips, even just a little, I will piledrive you through the earth's crust with my dick. So. Just be aware what you're getting into here."

 

[Eighty-six]

"The biggest thing I've lacked up to this point is determination. I won't waver in the face of insecurities anymore. No more half-measures. I'm determined to see this through.

...so, I'm the Armored Titan--"

It would be kinda hilarious if they get married before sex just like a Christian couple, and later find out one of them is irredeemably unfixably terrible in bed and hates sex, and the other has a massive sex drive and is terrific at pleasing their partner. So, just like a lot of Christian couples that never find out if they are sexually compatible before marriage.

"Sexual compatibility" is a strange justification for premarital sex, particularly when pleasing your partner during sex is something that always requires work-- premarital or not. "Irredeemably unfixably terrible" is an even stranger qualification more fitting a case where one of the partners is a paraplegic or has a gonadal abnormality/disorder.

Sakurai was in tears in this chapter while acknowledging that he wasn't meeting his girlfriend's needs, while framing it as something that needed to be fixed. That's a conversation that wouldn't be out place in or out of marriage.

If you don't have a moral bias against premarital sex, then these excuses for it are unnecessary. If you really value a person, even to the point of wanting to marry them, evaluating "sexual compatibility" (assuming both parties are willing to have sex-- one party being unwilling/unable is separate from whether they suck at it) shouldn't be able to yield a result that convinces you that you have no future with that person. In which case, you're still stuck with the task of improving that circumstance.

99/100 times if someone is waiting for marriage to have sex, they are extremely unlikely to actually attempt to research and learn from other people, or experiment and communicate with their partner to get good at it on their own.

...it's literally impossible to "get good at sex" "on your own". That's not how sex works. There's research you do on your own, but it's still your specific partner's needs you're responding to. That's who you're learning from, most of all.

They will just assume their partner is satisfied because they aren't complaining, and go on with their day.

If there's no complaints or even requests, then of course there's not going to be a cause for improvement. The party that's leaving the other unsatisfied could stand to be more perceptive, but you're recounting people talking about a communication issue-- which is more fundamental than sex.

 

[iseedrawnpeople]

LET'S GOOOOOO!!!!

2 people who care for each other deeply, have supportive parents/friends, who are also open and honest with each other, plus try to find ways to improve themselves to help one another? Why wait?

Regardless of any personal issues any of us may be facing, majority of people who get married find ways to make it work and majority of people seem to start at a lower level of compatibility than these two have.

https://imgur.com/a/iUroYTy

 

[iseedrawnpeople]

"The biggest thing I've lacked up to this point is determination. I won't waver in the face of insecurities anymore. No more half-measures. I'm determined to see this through.

...so, I'm the Armored Titan--"


"Sexual compatibility" is a strange justification for premarital sex, particularly when pleasing your partner during sex is something that always requires work-- premarital or not. "Irredeemably unfixably terrible" is an even stranger qualification more fitting a case where one of the partners is a paraplegic.

Sakurai was in tears in this chapter while acknowledging that he wasn't meeting his girlfriend's needs, while framing it as something that needed to be fixed. That's a conversation that wouldn't be out place in or out of marriage.

If you don't have a moral bias against premarital sex, then these excuses for it are unnecessary. If you really value a person, even to the point of wanting to marry them, evaluating "sexual compatibility" (assuming both parties are willing to have sex-- one party being unwilling is separate from whether they suck at it) shouldn't be able to yield a result that convinces you that you have no future with that person. In which case, you're still stuck with the task of improving that circumstance.


...it's literally impossible to get good at sex "on your own". That's not how sex works. There's research you do on your own, but it's still your specific partner's needs you're responding to.


If there's no complaints or even requests, then of course there's not going to be a cause for improvement. The party that's leaving the other unsatisfied could stand to be more perceptive, but you're recounting people talking about a communication issue-- which is more fundamental than sex.

Good response. Some of the 'argumentation' on this topic is sad. I doubt it's even projection but other just regurgitating things said by others. Find what your partner likes, repeat. Be open to their suggestions and willing to provide yours and thats all you need. May sleep with 100 people doing 100 different moves first then marry a partner that just really likes whatever this person derides as "Christian sex."

Not like people are entering the sex Olympics and need pornstar level, Kama Sutraish repertoire in order to be sexually fulfilled in a relationship. How many are completely okay with "Vanilla" intercourse and get much more about of simple companionship from holding hands to just knowing someone is there to wake up next to and face the world each day with each other.

On the lack of communication there may be projection there, they surely are not talking about Sakurai and Uzaki. They would talk to eachother or fam/friends who would then prompt them to talk to each other.

 

[BartenderTM]

Well, that was rather sudden. Oh well, closer to seggs.

 

[Mordenheim]

Credits page pretty much summarized my reaction.

 

[Thorhit]

This chapter makes me so happy

 

[Alesund]

I did not see that line coming. I think you're moving a little too fast all of a sudden.

 

[sutululu]

99/100 times if someone is waiting for marriage to have sex, they are extremely unlikely to actually attempt to research and learn from other people, or experiment and communicate with their partner to get good at it on their own. They will just assume their partner is satisfied because they aren't complaining, and go on with their day. This is not a small sample size or uncommon thing, it's not a mystery or controversial topic, if you hang around with any women that are willing to talk about sex around you, you'd know this is an extremely common complaint. If you're one of the few people that waited, and then actually cared enough about it, your partner, and had the willingness and openness to get good at it after marriage, awesome, you're in an extremely small minority.

And of course it's a learning curve, that's my whole point. It's something you get good at, just like anything else. If you're too scared and puritanical about it that you don't do it until marriage, it's highly likely it's stigmatized so much that you won't be encouraged to actually put in the effort to get skilled at it, even with your marriage partner.

You are just making shit up to back up coomer lifestyle.

People who are waiting until marriage are significantly less likely to get a divorce

and report higher sexual satisfaction than those who don't:

Nearly 1 in 5 married men and women who have only had sex with their spouse report that they are "very satisfied" with multiple aspects of their sexual relationship in their marriage, compared to 1 in 10 married men and women who are "highly sexually experienced" and have 10+ lifetime sexual partners before marriage.