For the briefest moment, the ant comprehends the circuit board as if it were a man. And yet, when the moment passes, she is not left insane, but wiser, better. She has stolen fire from the gods and escaped unscathed.
No he isn't, but remember if he loves the puppet sword, Ageha comes and kills her. So he can't love the sword. However, the puppet sword doesn't have this context and believes that it's because she is 'ugly'.
I'm sorry, but how the hell do they expect him to ask those 3 pointed questions? He doesn't have the Awareness to realise that he's being followed, the capacity to doubt another person's intentions or the cunning to realise deeper meaning behind questions.