He alredy hade a cause to wage war. What he needed was somthing to keep other countrys from joining the Elf’s.
The Elven Queen gave him 2 letters in 2 diffrent language’s with the same mistakes.
I think their relationship has just become stagnet. I read through it again and the wife never did anything bad.
Sure she rejected sex but he asked out of the blue and he didint really want to have sex either.