@anon763
You’re either naive or have not gone through a good sex-Ed . Your “hymen” does not and should not determine a monogamous relationship as well as compatible values. There is no such thing as “wasting a hymen” as that can naturally degrade over time from riding your bike or horseback riding, even just running around and playing as a kid. So being forced to keep the idea that you are keeping yourself intact for your future partner is pointless as for most women don’t even know whether they even have theirs or not. As far as not wanting to do any vaginal masterbation for concern for your next partner, that is completely on the individual and their next partner. If she chooses to and her next partner decides that she’s doesn’t share values, than tough, on to the next more open individual.
I genuinely thought this was a story about a young woman learning about herself through becoming more sexually aware in a safe and open environment not to be immediately shut down from the first group of people whom she opened up to.