Fed-Kun's army
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I believe it similar to the concept of Sin and judgement in a religious sense. People like to say you'll be judged for your actions by a higher power upon dying. I personally believe that higher power in this sense is your conscience and until you repent (not to some person in a box but to the people you've harmed) you'll never truly be absolved. More specifically, you'll still live with you judging yourself (consciously or subconsciously) and that will keep you in a perpetual state of negative thinking, mental illness, etc, that clouds your journey through life.It may not apply to everyone, but despite all the fucked up things a parent might have done to you, its always possible to find a way to forgive them.
It's still fucked up she completely fucked her nephew's future. While it wasn't without "punishment", is this life that she's found herself in a punishment itself?
Building upon your first paragraph. You can always forgive your parents, and you can do it in a personal way that you express in your day to day life. Forgiving them doesn't have to be a verbal thing and it can show in simple ways by saying (using my personal situation as an example) "get some psychological help, not for me or even yourself, but for those you choose to still care about on a daily basis." I've forgiven my mother for the terrible things she's done to me not by saying it outright to her (she hasn't earned that since she hasn't been forthright) but by operating in a manner that I believe would make her proud if she wasn't clouded by so much turmoil she's unwilling to work through. Even if she doesn't or never sees it that way, as a child I perceived the good in her, that made me a kinder and more idealistic person, so I chose to forgive the ideal she once played in my life. I honor who she was to me positively in the past so I can empathically connect with others going forward in my life. In choosing the glass half full perspective when I have every reason to choose the opposite, I honor every part of myself (the bad in the blood, the bad I've internalized in day to day life, and all the good in those same veins of thought) and remain more whole than I could've ever deemed imaginable while I was living through my own personal hell.
Ultimately, we all have different life courses and no one way of living will ever be perfect for each of us. So choosing your own unique forgiveness that you find by analyzing your own life will never be wrong as long as you choose positivity.