Being ace isn't a monolith, tho. There are people who are sex repulsed and some who do it for their allosexual partner, even if they don't feel any desire or urge for the activity. I have ace friends who want no affection whatsoever and ace friends who are married to allosexuals and decided to have sex purely for the purpose of having children with their spouse. Neither are incorrect.
Hirano has absolutely no experience whatsoever, so I'm thinking there could be a possibility that he might open up to some forms of contact for Kagi-kun's sake, but he could also never be okay with it, which would be understandable and fine. As long as these two are on the same page and want to be together and make each other happy, I'm down with it!
Ugh.
I just want people to let things happen.
"I hope his orientation is..." gives me the ick.
I get that it's fiction, but I've seen too many people telling people their orientation, telling me to use/not use whatever terminology to the point I feel the least safe in queer spaces of all places.
The "progress flag" outright triggers anxiety attacks, because I am not white, trans, and was here before some kid decided to tell me I'm welcome.
I BEEN here. Waaaaay before that person (pronouns forgotten) was even born, and now I get people who give me the side eye if I use 🏳️🌈. (You know, the one for everyone?)
Great.
As such, I don't even feel comfortable with wearing pride anything, ever. I have stuff, and I don't care anymore. I'm gonna go back to dressing frum.
If I used a trans pride flag, and the sun faded it, people might take me, a woman, for a femboy. I very much don't want to be taken for a man.
If I put together a fun, colourful outfit, people sometimes think I'm trying to dress like XYZ flag and then I'm having some fucking conversation about myself a stranger at the supermarket while my ice cream melts.
Whether I call myself pan or bi someone will call me some kind of *phobic.
That's counterproductive.
I used to think I was only attracted to women, but was told I couldn't use "lesbian" for that, or I was being transphobic, because apparently lesbian doesn't apply to homosexuals, just people who are attracted to everything but cis men (based on many descriptions and berating given by young people).
Queer culture is toxic right now, and I'm over it.
I'm going back in the closet. I'm gonna pull out of the dating pool.
Yeah, I went off.
I've had a fucking day and didn't want a lecture on orientations when my point was "if he finds it disgusting, why would you want him to do it? That's weird."
"Maybe don't say that. Orientations exist."
"ACtuALlY..."
I'm done. I'm out. This site is doomed anyway, I'm removing the bookmark.