I hate the self loathing arc all these plain romcom protags must go through
I sorta get why it has to happen though, even if its tropey af. The premise of these sorts of OtakuxGal stories are usually pretty unrealistic and the initial chemistry has to kind of be forced. I think these sorts of arcs are a way of acknowledging that and then using it to make the MC far more confident and less of a door mat afterwards.
Sort of like the "loser x hot girl" version of a training arc in fighting shows and manga. Just something that has to happen to recognize the characters faults and improve.