It's actually really really important to be selfish in love. You have got to advocate for what you want, need, and feel in a relationship.
People who are selfless in relationships get burned out and and up feeling taken advantage of.
It's not that you are always going to get everything, but the communication that pops up around taking about your real feels ends up meeting deep needs to be heard and understood.
And that's pretty cool. 👍🏻