This is a long frustrating journey as she is still with the ex at chapter 22 and it takes another 10-15 chapter for her to request for break up.
Despite working there for 10 years she doesn't make any relationships with the aide or people working there except for 12 people so she find it suffocating and stressful when she creates such a workplace. It is a plot to make it easy for her to leave everything behind and has no attachment except for the useless one.
Also despite being rumour as the emperor mistress or favourite, there are still brainless people who want to antagonize her when she has the emperor full support but they dare not antagonize the emperor but dare to antagonize or look down on her in front of the emperor for plot to show how strong she is to overcome it.
