I'm sure he has deep-rooted issues, but there comes a time when you have to realise that when you ask her to do what she wants, she consistently starts doing even more of what you think is a "burden".
She also needs to actually convey her emotions properly so he's not stuck in the delusion that she's only there for practical reasons.
He just needs a large pot and a sledgehammer.
And she's still holding back so hard.