No. It's still unjustifiable.
Sure she went through her own hardships, that much was obvious from the start. But it's no excuse and especially no justification.
If she's that modular then you have no excuse to not buy her all of the upgrade parts.
Even better, buy her several of each so you always have replacements.
I'd say the odds are 50/50 that it will either go "I won't hand my daughter over to a weirdo like you" or "thank god my hopeless daughter finally found someone"
Never mind the lack of a ladder. There's not even a ledge to stand on outside of the window. What the hell was he standing on when he opened the window?