I can really relate to Shino and her problems. My older brother died last year, but it's not something I feel comfortable discussing with strangers. When asked if anybody in the family is married, do I say yes, or no? Since my older brother was the only one who was married in my family. When asked how many siblings I have, do I reduce the number by one? If I said so, it feels like I'm fine with a family member leaving , which I'm not. I'm over the grief period, but there's still lines and boundaries to what I can think and say at this point. Even thinking about the answers leave me twitchy.