Same crap all the time. For some reason the hero is an overly peaceful idiot who's sincerity means they never have to deal with the realities of behaving that way.
Meanwhile the rival group, who's heart is in the right place, gets to be OVERLY aggressive with no consequences. Oh, it's okay because they've run into assassins before? Sorry! That's not how that works.
Like my guy putting a sword to someone's throat, without provocation, is one of the most aggressive acts of pre-violence you can do.
In the real world that gets you killed hard and everyone understands. Put a gun to my head and say "we need to talk" and the first chance I get you are dying. You have shown an incredible lack of self restraint and aggression.