No wonder being called emotional manipulator hit her so hard, her actions were more calculated than we thought, really interesting how the cultural differences change their dynamics for us filthy laowai.
What. Girl.
She feels bad about it, that makes it ok
In all seriousness, although what she did is arguably not nice, is it
really outright bad? Maybe I'm just cynical, but I find her mentality extremely realistic and pragmatic, unfortunately after a certain age you can't
really just wing it and expect everything to end fine, at some point you need to start calculating what you want and what you'll sacrifice to get it, how you'll get it, it just happens that she learned that earlier than most.
I think it's not as bad as it might feel because there's not an ounce of malice, it's not like the relationship is abusive or anything, is it really that much different from doing a bunch of things for your crush in the hopes they'll fall for you? It simply has extra cultural weight on it, otherwise I don't think it's that different from trying winning someone heart like we would do in the west.