Here U Are - Vol. 1 Ch. 124

[MangaDex]

 

[Thrembs]

FUUUUUUUCK THIIIIIIIIIS SHIIIIIT.

Traditionalist asspiss garbage

 

[CanHazManga]

@Thembs I feel like you're coming at it from the wrong mindset. The Grandpa clearly believes that his grandson is straight (probably because this is the default mindset and he currently has no reason to feel otherwise). As a Grandpa who has only one relative and is often alone - he is hoping to make sure that his Grandson is not lonely like himself (he wants him to be happy and supported with a family). Obviously the best way to not be lonely, in his eyes, is to get married and have children so that you have strong family bonds. He's attempting to help him along this path. Note that its not like an arranged marriage or something - he's not force the dude into anything that is permanent.

Now, if the Grandpa comes to realize that his grandson is gay and then disowns, hurts, berates him, then your comment becomes a bit more fitting - but for now, he's just a concerned older man who does not understand why his grandson would choose to be alone.

 

[kanadarica]

Aaahh I hope this pair will work. I'm already hurt with qiu and uncle pan 😭

Huan Wen's story is the most touching for me. He's really a good kid. For him not to hurt his grandpa, he rather chooses to be single than being in a gay relationship.

 

[tonie2020]

I love the blind-date response frame. Precious.

Also, I hope this means we'll see some movement on the Huan/Yuan story, if you know what I mean!

 

[Raitei044]

I really hate this culture of "You need to get married and have a family so you won't grow old and lonely" (i.e., someone will be there for you and take care of you when you become a gramps). To me, it's senseless pressure. While I sometimes think of romance, I don't really have a strong vision/desire to find someone to be a couple with, and it irks me whenever family persistently asks when I would get a boyfriend and get married. They even hate the idea of adoption, saying it won't compare to having a kid of your own blood.

I understand they want to see me happy, but getting married and giving birth aren't the only ways to achieve that. 😩

 

[Bimla]

@Raitei044 I agree with you.

I never understand why the other (a member's family or a friend) should ask you to meet with someone, even if is just to know another person.
For me it's like to "impose" to do something and after you "feel obliged" to "continue " to see that person. I don't like it.

 

[luckycalico]

Okay, given Pan and Qiu were the couple that didn’t work, these guys should end up happy? Please?!

I’m kinda worried that as part of the resolution, YuYang and/or JiYuan are going to out him to his grandfather before he’s ready. But I also think an ending where Huanwen is unhappily married would be too cruel. So stressful!

 

[uruiru]

Crossing fingers for this sidecouple to have a happy ending

 

[Leomonade]

I know the grandpa means well and loves his grandson a lot... I know the way he thinks is because he is old and was raised differently and lived a very different life compared to the current generation... I know he is just trying his best to make sure Huan Wen has a bright future... but... but... UUUUUUUUUUUGHHH! DX

 

[liszst]

DUDE. THIS CHAPTER. I felt it in my bones, holy shit. My mother tells me this all the time. ;-; the guilt, and my former classmates around me about to get married and have kids and I’m just, it’s not my thing but it’s tough cuz there’s society’s expectations and I know my parents mean well... Fuck, man.

 

[nohugs_ugh]

@CanHazManga I totally agree.

It's not a black & white situation where the person who's telling Huan Wen to get married is the bad guy. His words may not be what Huan Wen wishes to hear, but it comes out of concern (& partly guilt) from a worried grandpa. My extended family has a similar mindset too & I've seen my aunt worry over my single cousin, but they work around it. Now my cousin's happy, taking care of her nieces & nephews. Ah. I hope I'm making sense ^^" this got drabby because the chapter is such a familiar place.

 

[bigsnek]

The road to hell is paved with good intentions.

This chapter is way too real

 

[ashurii]

I’m imagining HuanWen telling the girl he’s on a “blind date” with that he’s got someone he’s interested in already.... and hopefully she will say she felt a bit obligated to come as well, and they end up being cool with each other and telling their respective relatives they enjoyed themselves but will not be pursuing more than a friendship.

HuanWen so rarely acts out of character (unlike that time he gave JiYuan the key to his apartment! That was shocking) that I really am having a hard time fathoming how he may come out to his grandpa. Will he ever? I am desperate for a sweet ending for our babies HuanWen and JiYuan!!!

 

[Himekoo]

Ughhhh I felt this way too much. Everytime I say I don't particularly wanna get married and I don't really want kids, my mom understands but my dad keeps saying that I "shouldn't say things like that" and that I'll "feel lonely that way"..... I know he's worried about me, and honestly i worry about feeling lonely too, but I don't really think it's worth to get married to someone you don't really want to spend a lot of time with just because you'll feel lonely, bc that's a type of loneliness too.

Ahhhh I understand why the grandpa is worried, even if Huan Wen weren't gay (which in this case only makes things harder bc maybe grandpa is not ready to accept that?) , but I understand Huan Wen wanting to live his life the way he wants in peace ;; AHHHH THIS SERIES ALWAYS GET ME

 

[selenabs]

I feel like cry so hard.....the pressure is so much.....I'm sorry

 

[Blue_comet]

So the new cycle of drama has begun! I never could handle such topics as family’s pressure well. Author is going for my heart for sure huh... Thanks for the new chapter!

 

[rryuji]

That was so painful poor baby

 

[danaxf4]

Thank you sooo much for the chapter 💖

 

[driftingabove]

Aw shit that was just the twist of the knife (( poor Huan Wen, he'll never have the courage to tell grandpa the truth now, and the amount of guilt he must feel...