I get her way of thinking. It's not easy to change your paradigms and beliefs overnight. Sure, she's seeing what some happiness can be but that is as a woman, as a knight she didn't forget how her people are suffering.
I just think the way they approached the inhabitants of this fertile land was improper. These seem like understanding people, dunno what the barbarians did also, perhaps just defend themselves but we'll see, however there is no need for more bloodshed if they could talk it over.