Wow, this feels like such positive AroAce rep! I'm ace and while I don't get repulsed, I'm definitely super choosy about who and how I touch, especially with more intimate things like hugs.
I'm really impressed by how the author's exploring Hirano's feelings: what he's coming to understand about himself, and what romance looks/feels like to him. It's so fresh and exciting to see in a genre that's typically known for guys kissing within the first chapter and/or dragging stories out with romantic trope nonsense.
Feels more non-aro ace to me, but we shall see
I know most people will read this series under the impression that it is a BL manga,
🤨 It is.
The author has said it.
Boys and love are happening.
Love doesn't mean sex.
I mean, it's part of what
I need (within reason, of course. Mitigating circumstances exist) in a relationship, but not everyone.
so most will be expecting kisses and romantic scenes,
I don't.
but I genuinely can't see Hirano doing extremely romantic gestures unless it's to try it out or to make Kagiura happy.
...why else would someone do romantic gestures?
Like, say, buying very personal birthday presents, or going to sportball events because he knows mans likes it.
Needing to live together, and making it happen...
These things can be romantic gestures, or just bro-ing out. Context.
As an aroace person I heavily relate to him—
That's awesome.
having certain limitations on what type of physical intimacy is ok for me, wanting to care for someone deeply
Totally with you so far, though it's not exactly relatable, aside my ex being grey ace, so I'm over here like Kagi-kun
yet not having romantic feelings, etc.
Hmm?
He hasn't sorted out his feelings, yet.
They're together to some degree in the future(there's a flash forward in SasaMyaa, of which this is a spinoff), and Hirani has some degree of boundaries on physical contact, which are fully respected.
The perfect portrayal of their relationship, IMO,
The closest thing to "perfect portrayal" is... In the manga. "Death of the author" or not, the piece isn't even finished.
Load your head cannon with all the funpowder you want. I think head cannon is as valid as official canon.
But it needs clear. differentiation.
would be if they're in a queerplatonic relationship—something not quite romantic as lovers but a relationship
I mean, "lovers" is something to be defined by the couple.
If you're a couple, then it's up to you what you call it. Establishing the parameters is part of any relationship.
Adjectives are, quite often, approximations, with ambiguities hammered out with subtleties and minutiae.
equally as, or even more important and intimate
Now it sounds like you're disparaging romantic relationships. 😒
You are equally valid. Not more.
Different doesn't mean better or worse.
Gotta say, considering Kagi-kun's reactions in future (flash forward is like 6mo after Hirano's graduation), I think them staying together long term is extremely idealistic. What's he gonna do with that pent up energy?
I mean, it's totally a thing, I'm sure. Law of large numbers I would have very little trouble finding such partnerships online. But having near-opposite orientations? Wow. That's... A lot.
Kagi-kun has said he fantasises about... things not described, and potentially not that healthy...
It's not why we broke up*, but it was a source of tension and pain for my ex and I to react to stress in opposite ways.
The emotional neglect from her was tangled up with that, but was not not due to her orientation.**
So, yeah. See it how you like, but that's head canon. One which is totally awesome.
*it was toxic, I was a hot head, she gaslit and isolated me, pushed more and more psych meds on me any time I said I was unhappy with our life and needed XYZ to keep going...
**She would just shut down and stop talking to or spending time with me when I disliked her choices.
Like forcing us to live in X location and not telling me why for 4 years, or breaking promises, or not letting me shop for groceries...
Point is, while it was a source of tension, it wasn't a deal-breaker because when she wasn't stressed or angry mood, she wasn't averse.