but imo, as long as you respect the person's right to refuse you, no one can really complain if you make an effort to seduce them. Sexuality is a spectrum after all, and I've heard plenty of stories where guys have come onto lesbians without taking it too far at all, and some of them have even reciprocated. At the end of the day, it's all about respecting the other person's consent, whether that's in the moment with your lover who just isn't in the mood or in the long term with someone you're trying to seduce who tells you in no uncertain terms to back off, for whatever reason.