I'm not saying Shiri's life wasn't tragic. I'm saying it's not as tragic as modern day angels'. At least a lot of the shit she went through can be laid at the feet of a war where everyone was desperate. It had purpose. Even her survivor's guilt was because the man she loved loved her back. Better to have loved and lost, right?
Modern day angels, pre-Mu Siyun and even after for those not in Red Scale suffered because of the greed, selfishness, and just plain cruelty of rich assholes who'd never known hardship.