It Is My First Love - Vol. 1 Ch. 30
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Just started reading this series and caught up, and honestly the TL notes are kind of offending me because they often act like this is all a big misunderstanding and they just need to clear it up and all that, but honestly it's hardly a misunderstanding at all? I really don't care that the dude didn't mean to leave the letter out where someone could find it, it doesn't change the fact that this is literally all his fault for blackmailing her in the first place. And he doesn't seem sorry for THAT at all. Like, his attitude towards her in the workplace is the exact same lowkey bullying that he did in high school and she has every right to hate him forever? He quite literally does not deserve her forgiveness right now.
I mean, I'm not saying he's irredeemable and I am 100% sure he thought it was just playful teasing and an excuse to hang out with the girl he likes. But what he did to her was flat out bullying or even an abusive relationship. HE could laugh the letter off as a joke, a funny experience they shared, but SHE was rightfully terrified that it could destroy her life at any moment, which it did. So she could literally never be comfortable around him no matter how nice he thought he was being. At no point has he considered her feelings, ever, and quite frankly he's an asshole.
So before she forgives him, and obviously they will go on to be a couple because that's the kind of story this is, I really want to see him go through a lot of soul searching.
Er... anyway, I don't think the issues between them are nearly as simple as a "misunderstanding" and even when they discover that everything was that jealous girl's fault (obviously) that doesn't even begin to scratch the surface of their dysfunctional relationship, honestly. That wouldn't resolve anything on its own.
Edit: Frankly he doesn't even deserve an explanation from her. She had and has every right to just ghost him.
Edit2: I mean, Jisoo knows exactly what happened and she still hates him years later, which sounds about right to me. Imagine thinking your best friend and this guy were a cute couple and teasing her about it only to find out later that he was BLACKMAILING her into hanging out with him against her will. Jeez.
I mean, I'm not saying he's irredeemable and I am 100% sure he thought it was just playful teasing and an excuse to hang out with the girl he likes. But what he did to her was flat out bullying or even an abusive relationship. HE could laugh the letter off as a joke, a funny experience they shared, but SHE was rightfully terrified that it could destroy her life at any moment, which it did. So she could literally never be comfortable around him no matter how nice he thought he was being. At no point has he considered her feelings, ever, and quite frankly he's an asshole.
So before she forgives him, and obviously they will go on to be a couple because that's the kind of story this is, I really want to see him go through a lot of soul searching.
Er... anyway, I don't think the issues between them are nearly as simple as a "misunderstanding" and even when they discover that everything was that jealous girl's fault (obviously) that doesn't even begin to scratch the surface of their dysfunctional relationship, honestly. That wouldn't resolve anything on its own.
Edit: Frankly he doesn't even deserve an explanation from her. She had and has every right to just ghost him.
Edit2: I mean, Jisoo knows exactly what happened and she still hates him years later, which sounds about right to me. Imagine thinking your best friend and this guy were a cute couple and teasing her about it only to find out later that he was BLACKMAILING her into hanging out with him against her will. Jeez.
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@Clarste
You will find that a lot of ppl here have the same opinion as you.
But it was high school. It was a different time. There's a ton of ppl I know that were jerks in high school that went on to be fine ladies and gents.
I won't be besties with them, but I'd be willing to let it go after they properly apologise.
You will find that a lot of ppl here have the same opinion as you.
But it was high school. It was a different time. There's a ton of ppl I know that were jerks in high school that went on to be fine ladies and gents.
I won't be besties with them, but I'd be willing to let it go after they properly apologise.
@practicallyuseful Well yeah, like I said I don't think he's irredeemable, he was just insensitive. What matters more to me is that he doesn't seem to have changed at all since then? He still treats her the same way and it still stresses her out to no end. That's why I said he has to change first before he has any right to ask for her forgiveness, and he doesn't seem to realize that.
Also, she's perfectly free to forgive him if she wants to, but that doesn't mean she has any obligation to either. Acting like he deserves forgiveness because it was a misunderstanding or he was just a teenager or whatever would just make him more of an asshole, imo. She has the right to just not want to deal with him ever again and there's nothing wrong with that.
Edit: Like even now it's clear that he's only confronting her to resolve HIS feelings about being abandoned without a word. Apologizing to her comes in at a distant second. So basically he's still just as insensitive as he is was back then, if not more.
Also, she's perfectly free to forgive him if she wants to, but that doesn't mean she has any obligation to either. Acting like he deserves forgiveness because it was a misunderstanding or he was just a teenager or whatever would just make him more of an asshole, imo. She has the right to just not want to deal with him ever again and there's nothing wrong with that.
Edit: Like even now it's clear that he's only confronting her to resolve HIS feelings about being abandoned without a word. Apologizing to her comes in at a distant second. So basically he's still just as insensitive as he is was back then, if not more.
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@practicallyuseful Yeah--- I agree with -- you!
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All because that childhood friend who couldn't get over that his friend doesn't loved her. Probably we will see again our fl's old friend. I still don't like her, she just accused the fl for being a bad friend but she never heard her neither let her explain everything
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@Clarste RETWEEEET. Blackmailing for attention??? That's not a good look. Pretty scummy even for a high schooler. And what's more unbelievable is that he's a working professional who has displayed 0 emotional growth... i don't really understand what the author is thinking bc he is highly unlikeable and such a inconsiderate match for our traumatized, anxious FL ;--;
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We all know who gave her friend the letter. He doesn’t know who did because he left it in his room. Yes he was wrong for that, but when you’re young you do immature things. But before the incident, she started liking him too.
I still want to know what happened to that girl and who was the ML Married to?
I still want to know what happened to that girl and who was the ML Married to?
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Baby girl, he was returning the letter to you because he was convined that he had established enough emotional control over you. He was blackmailing you so it really doesn't matter how the letter got out. Also, pls don't fall for his.."gasp! I didn't get the voicemail!" bullshit. Why do these writers give some much room for bad behavior from their male characters? Why is the bar so low?
Would the "fans" feel the same way about this peice of shit if he was not "good looking"? What if he was ugly and had the same personality?
Would the "fans" feel the same way about this peice of shit if he was not "good looking"? What if he was ugly and had the same personality?
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I KNEW IT
he really didn't know jackshit. he still doesn't know jackshit.
he really thought she ran away simply because she thought he gave the letter? she was fucking bullied.
how dare he say "i should've kept it better" no asshat, you should have given it to her when she asked. how dare he say "how could you leave without saying anything?"
he really didn't know jackshit. he still doesn't know jackshit.
he really thought she ran away simply because she thought he gave the letter? she was fucking bullied.
how dare he say "i should've kept it better" no asshat, you should have given it to her when she asked. how dare he say "how could you leave without saying anything?"
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