I recommend that you seek psychological help from a psychologist. How psychologically disturbed do you have to be to compare an open sexual relationship involving multiple people to people who rape minors?
-Harem: Everyone involved is satisfied because they consented
-Child predators: They abuse people who aren’t mature enough yet, against their will, and cause lifelong psychological damage.
Would I want to live in a harem myself? Actually, no, because when I look at it from this perspective: why would you let another woman in, but not a man? And I don’t want another man in my relationship. I would only live in such a “harem” (with only other women, at most, because just as I respect my life partner, my feelings should also be respected) if not living in a “harem” made my partner unhappy (for whatever reason). For one thing, that’ll probably never happen, and for another, something like that would require a superhuman amount of trust from all three parties toward each other (if there were more than three people involved, I’d only even consider it if I’d become a drug addict and was hallucinating—it’s already unrealistic enough to end up in a harem situation lol).
The most important thing for me in my life is that everyone involved is satisfied.
Your focus is on everyone dancing to your tune, and anyone who doesn’t deserves to be punished. You’re always right. You’re a narcissist