dude I cant read this, everytime I read this I remember my crappy attemps at trying to help out others
not to mention that now I think about it they all seemed so creepy fuck AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
I would never advise a girl to go back to their cheating ex, but its interesting how machida said its ok to love them until you hate them...I would have thought its too wasteful to spare any love and hate on another person that do not even look at you.
Just because he cheated does not mean he is irredeemable. And even if he hurts her again she will start to hate him, Like Machida said. She's free to love whom she wants but she should also draw the line where needed. Though I would still never really give advice like that.
Everyone, try to note that Machida's advice only makes sense because "she tries so hard to forget him, but still cant help but love him". A rather extreme and niche case, right? Well, I feel that his advice works in this case, but he failed to mention to be prepared to draw a line just in case, like @Araragohachi mentioned (this how you tag someone?)
You 100% shouldn't enable a cheater, but there is merit in that we don't get to control how we feel. Here she's trying to forget her feelings in a pretty unhealthy way by rebounding on the first guy that was nice to her whom she doesn't even really like like that. She's not confronting her emotions well. And that doesn't mean getting back with the cheater, but stuff like letting herself feel sad over it or be angry at him. I like the line love him until you hate him because it feels like validating her emotions. A lot of times we forget that because we're dealing with fiction and we think shipping wars or someone should just get over a trash partner. But in reality we're kinda awful in love. We can often fall for the wrong people and it takes a long time to pick up those pieces because we can't just tell our brain to stop caring about xyz.
That said I could be completely off the mark and bexause of Machida's advice she gets back with a terrible cheating boyfriend and has a miserable life.
Yeah, this one ain't it chief... I'm a big believer that "time heals the wounds of a heart", so no matter how obsessed or heartbroken you are by someone, eventually it'll stop hurting as much
And regarding Machida advice, it's not really Bad.
It's her choice after all, znd she's still young, she have lot of time to find if she really like him now or if someone else can be better for her (hopefully).