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We are talking about people throwing already born children in the trash can. Whether or not you can get an abortion prior to that point has no bearing on throwing an already born child away like garbage.
Yes we are talking about people giving birth to a child and leaving them to die by abandoning them, i already covered the reasons why such things happen, but you refuse to face the reality of the situation by thinking of them as irrelevant
Abortion and other forms of pregnancy prevention, is important to the discussion because it is one of the bigger ways to prevent the situation of child abandonment all together
Which still doesn't change the fact that someone putting a baby into a garbage bin is leaving them to die by exposure. It does not change the fact that a whole life, that just about everyone in the present day agrees is a human life and person and whatever else we are, is being left to die. You were able to recognize the life of the born child earlier, but it doesn't appear to be sinking in that-- whatever the circumstance of the mother-- they are still killing a child. Their child, moreover. A life, gone, and we're supposed to care that it happened because the mother for whatever reason didn't want to have a child?
Yes we are supposed to care about the reason why the woman didn't want to have a child, that's how we get to understand why the phenomenon happens, and work into preventing it from occurring all together
Assuming that the woman is a child murder just because they are evil, doesn't answers anything, nor offers a solution to the problem
Would you try to argue this with someone who was left to die in a dumpster as a newborn?
Yes i would, an abandoned child will eventually ask themselves why their progenitor didn't love them, why she didn't want to be a mom, and why she left them out to die
The answer to those questions need to holistically address the whole story that lead to them being abandoned in order for them to gain closure, and be able to move on, would i have this conversation with them as a child? no, as a teenager? no, as a young adult? maybe if they are mature enough to handle how ugly the world is
However just telling them "well bad luck, you draw the short stick in life and the woman that gave birth to you was a psycho, so there's nothing to do, she just was a bad woman" does nothing to help such existential crisis
In fact it makes things even worse, because now on top of the complex that comes from being abandoned, you are implanting the idea that their direct ancestor has a mental illness that can't be treated and that can be inherited, so now they also have to live with the fear of thinking that they may be a psycho too, which is both false and also a very shitty thing to do, at that point may as well make up something and tell them that their mother died in labor
You are having a conversation about how to supposedly prevent this, but that still has nothing to do with the circumstance where the child is born and then is left to die, suffocating while bearing pathogens and the elements.
It has everything to do with the circumstances of the child being born and left to die, because those are the factors that need to be changed in order to prevent the situation from happening, one of them being the termination of an unwanted pregnancy
The others being the implementation of, spread, accessibility, funding, and education of a system of adoption for unwanted children, that wont criminalize nor stigmatize the women giving away their kid
Another being the transformation of the social perception regarding unwanted pregnancies and when these are carried to term the adoption of unwanted children
The lack of ability to get an abortion does not, not even minimally, justify killing an already born child-- not unless you want to argue for post-birth abortion, perhaps to "make up" for whatever abortion they apparently weren't able to have.
The fuck is post birth abortion? are you stupid? stop wasting my time with nonsense and take this seriously
Because they killed a kid. Their kid. What they wanted, is separate from the fact that they left their already born child to die. Nobody forced them to commit murder-- the circumstance of "not wanting to become a mother" isn't a force, because there are multiple options to take that don't involve killing kids.
For most of the world there are not other options, as i already explained on my previous comment, for most of the world the options that a mother has when faced with an unwanted pregnancy are just 2, being forced to become a mother, or abandoning the child, depending of where the child is abandoned the woman will then go to prison or the baby will die
Your fantasy world in which there are multiple options and alternatives in which a woman can safely give birth to a baby they don't want to have, and then hand it out to an orphanage, just doesn't exist, in fact i already told you that for the Japanese case that the very act you are proposing as an alternative is considered a crime punishable by law
The so called alternative is for the woman to go to prison for half a decade for giving the child away to an orphanage, which sure is a better alternative compared to abandoning the child in a box to die...
But that way of thinking is stupid, it completely ignores the situation of the woman forced to give birth, (and before you even say that "no one is forcing them to give birth" abortions are also illegal in Japan), and completely separates itself from the circumstances of having to end up with a life ruined due to something that they never wanted
Also you keep saying that it is "their kid", there's something you don't understand at a fundamental psychological level, a mother is not something that is created automatically when a woman becomes pregnant, there's no magical link or bond between a woman and the baby gestating inside them, i already told you this and you completely ignored it because you clearly don't care
A mother is a role that demands hard work, care, love, and a lot of will and investment, just getting pregnant and giving birth doesn't creates a mother, if you fail to understand this you will never be able to do anything to properly address this issue, because you will never get why someone wouldn't automatically care for someone they are giving birth to
For women with unwanted pregnancies, they are not giving birth to "their child", they are giving birth to a stranger they wish had never been in their lives, victims of sexual abuse, even go as far as to refer to the unwanted babies as parasites, that's the level of distance that is psychologically formed between a woman and a baby product of an unwanted pregnancy, this can happen to anyone, is not a sign of psychopathy, or a product of an evil woman being born unable to feel empathy and care, it is a product of sexual abuse and a lack of support towards the victim, to the point that they end up forced to give birth in a toilet and then forced to either keep the baby they never wanted, end up in prison, or abandon the whole thing
Why would then, under such circumstances, a woman go to prison, risk death at childbirth, or change the entire course of their lives, for the sake of someone they perceive as a parasite that is ruining their life? the answer is that they wouldn't, as we can see for the phenomenon known as child abandonment
For children to stop being thrown away and being left to die at birth, we need to change all the factors that lead to the process happening, all the way from the moment of conception, passing by gestation, birth, and all the way till the very moment no matter how many years it may be that a child will find themselves orphaned, because child abandonment doesn't limits itself to newborns, it can happen at any age for as long as the child remains dependent on an adult for survival