Mujikbaeksu Gye Baek-sun - Vol. 4 Ch. 171 - The First Love Is Usually Like This [5]

[BCS]

I dunno what I expected, but I'm still somehow disappointed. Like author didn't want to commit so they just put the whole arc on hold. She said some whatevers, he said some whatevers. Nothing to see here folks, back to scheduled programming

 

[Stickerparty]

Old man is literally me. (I'm in my 20s)

You should probably go see a doctor, man… unless you’re asexual ? Don’t want to assume.

 

[Stickerparty]

I dunno what I expected, but I'm still somehow disappointed. Like author didn't want to commit so they just put the whole arc on hold. She said some whatevers, he said some whatevers. Nothing to see here folks, back to scheduled programming

I feel like for Gye, this is a big step. She’s been so utterly passive in her life and actions, this feels like a good stepping stone for her. She communicated her feelings and the place she was in. Our girl is very slowly making her way. I also like that in a sense she wants to get her shit together so she can be a better person for this sweet guy.

 

[Nao6769]

 

[Sputnick00]

I dunno what I expected, but I'm still somehow disappointed. Like author didn't want to commit so they just put the whole arc on hold. She said some whatevers, he said some whatevers. Nothing to see here folks, back to scheduled programming

 

[Paprika2137]

Did that old ass dude watched whole thing from his window?

 

[YCdurian]

I havent felt this giddy in so long
twirling my hair, kicking my feet, laying on my stomach, and hysterically giggling

 

[justformangatoo]

Two dorks that trying to understand each other love, so sweet my heart aaaaaa.
Better than the forced romance in zzz 2.5 story heh.

Also アケオメ you guys.

 

[big_red01027]

Progress? Progress!

I guess.

 

[Chaariot]

Is this... peak? Over the other side... the 'next chapter'... Is this where the peak is at? 🥹

 

[chadxm]

and that's how you communicate...at least....that, it doesn't stand up ....

 

[ellatron6000]

LOVE, HAPPY NEW YEAR!

 

[Maimuni9]

Aww, this was sweet. I feel like Gye completely misunderstands love, but hopefully she'll figure out while dating that she doesn't need to "deserve" or "be worthy of" being loved.

And hopefully the old man will get some Viagra or something, rooting for you too king.

That's a christian perspective, but to existential atheist perspective, people are either what they show or one's own self projection. Being skeptical about "deserving love" is not a misunderstanding. If directed internally it's self hatred which is bad, but externally it's just prudence. It goes both ways, one should also ask the question if the third party deserves one's love. It's a question that should always be asked "what do I have to offer that makes them chose me" and of course more importantly "what do they have to offer that makes me choose them".

I don't think Gye said that coming from a place of self hate. If she really hated herself she wouldn't even give the relationship a chance. I think she just acknowledges that pragmatically she isn't a catch. "People who deserve to get loved get love", that could very well be from a societal viewpoint, not an internal veridiction.

 

[tomatomandarine]

That's a christian perspective, but to existential atheist perspective, people are either what they show or one's own self projection. Being skeptical about "deserving love" is not a misunderstanding. If directed internally it's self hatred which is bad, but externally it's just prudence. It goes both ways, one should also ask the question if the third party deserves one's love. It's a question that should always be asked "what do I have to offer that makes them chose me" and of course more importantly "what do they have to offer that makes me choose them".

I don't think Gye said that coming from a place of self hate. If she really hated herself she wouldn't even give the relationship a chance. I think she just acknowledges that pragmatically she isn't a catch. "People who deserve to get loved get love", that could very well be from a societal viewpoint, not an internal veridiction.

I’m not sure I would call this a Christian or an atheist perspective. Whether through divine grace or chemical reactions in our brains, I think love is fundamentally irrational for most people. A pretty face, a kind gesture, or something even more meaningless can be enough to spark it.

Because of that, asking “what do I have to offer that makes them choose me?” is usually a pointless exercise. The person themselves may not even know the answer. Whatever answer you arrive at is more likely a reflection of your own self-image than of what others actually see in you.

When Gye says "Just wait until I can believe that I'm someone who deserves to be loved" it does show 1. she has low self esteem (duh) 2. she doesn't understand that love isn't about deserving anything. People don’t fall in love because they deserve it. Poor people fall in love. Criminals get married in prison. There is nothing about “deserving” in the equation. If someone loves you for who you are and you like them back (or if they have something to offer, if you prefer that framing), then there is nothing inherently holding you back.

 

[Dsazzel]

This is so sweet imma die from hyperglycemia 😭. Gye is deserving of love, she just doesn't understand that he loves her unconditionally for who she is.

 

[Tenc]

I feel like she had the opposite perspective than she expressed here. Instead of having only ever experienced conditional love, she has experienced unconditional love from her parents. She seems afraid of the prospect of disappointing someone who HAS expectations for her cause of her past experiences with failure. Glad her confession expressed that she was just afraid and that she needs time.