My Mother and Older Sister
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I think she killed the both of them...?
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When I saw this was posted, I went back and reread the Bad Candy You Give Me version. The story's more fleshed out here (so far). This one's been redrawn, with some panels being very similar, making for an interesting comparison.
this story is litterally not same but a little like mine, everyday welp cause im the oldest brother, i was the one who is very stricted by my mom, and this story kinda make me remember all the old sad days, until i was thinking to suicide so many ties but i didnt cause i have a goal in my live
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@kikyichi
For the most part it seems like a tale of two sisters who have struggled to cope with the environment they've been raised in and the sudden "freedom" they've received from losing their mother. It's also about how perspective is everything.
The eldest sister has been held to unreasonable standards of being the "perfect" eldest daughter, and it's had adverse affects on her mental health. Whether she realizes it or not, she's become a carbon copy of her mother, despite remarking that they're "free" from her mother after her passing. She's jealous of her younger sister due to her perceived freedom and not having to put up with their mother's incessant demands, and often feels inferior due to not being as smart as the youngest. The eldest is also jealous of the youngest's perceived lack of responsibility, as the eldest has always had to be the "responsible" one of the family, giving up on their own personal expression to be of use to the family.
The youngest on the other hand has had it equally rough, realizing early on that the eldest was jealous of her (what with the eldest hiding the aunt's dress.) While the eldest had grown up in a stifled environment due to their mother, the youngest grew up in the same circumstances, as the eldest unknowingly turned into a copy of their mother, and often belittled the youngest with offhand comments here and there. The youngest hates it when people compare her to the eldest, due to the fact that the eldest is just a perpetuation of toxicity from their mother. She realizes this early, and also realizes she has the freedom to escape, which is why she's opting to go for far away colleges she can live in at rather than commuting to them.
Both of them have grown up in toxic suffocating circumstances, and it shows in word choice and their actions. Both's personal growth has been stifled completely, though for wildly different yet strangely similar reasons.
For the most part it seems like a tale of two sisters who have struggled to cope with the environment they've been raised in and the sudden "freedom" they've received from losing their mother. It's also about how perspective is everything.
The eldest sister has been held to unreasonable standards of being the "perfect" eldest daughter, and it's had adverse affects on her mental health. Whether she realizes it or not, she's become a carbon copy of her mother, despite remarking that they're "free" from her mother after her passing. She's jealous of her younger sister due to her perceived freedom and not having to put up with their mother's incessant demands, and often feels inferior due to not being as smart as the youngest. The eldest is also jealous of the youngest's perceived lack of responsibility, as the eldest has always had to be the "responsible" one of the family, giving up on their own personal expression to be of use to the family.
The youngest on the other hand has had it equally rough, realizing early on that the eldest was jealous of her (what with the eldest hiding the aunt's dress.) While the eldest had grown up in a stifled environment due to their mother, the youngest grew up in the same circumstances, as the eldest unknowingly turned into a copy of their mother, and often belittled the youngest with offhand comments here and there. The youngest hates it when people compare her to the eldest, due to the fact that the eldest is just a perpetuation of toxicity from their mother. She realizes this early, and also realizes she has the freedom to escape, which is why she's opting to go for far away colleges she can live in at rather than commuting to them.
Both of them have grown up in toxic suffocating circumstances, and it shows in word choice and their actions. Both's personal growth has been stifled completely, though for wildly different yet strangely similar reasons.
my goodness me this story is just
ugh what gets me is that from the outside they're really just "responsible girls raised well" when inside they're utterly broken and miserable
the fact that toxic parenting can be so hidden and yet perpetuating is terrible ahhh
also I recommend reading the shorter version as well in Bad Candy You Give Me, it does better in two major ways
(1) portraying the differences in expectations and oppression just based on age alone
(2) older sister trying to not be like the mother in all the ways that doesn't matter (offering skincare the mother disdained, persuading her to dress more "wildly") and yet she's the same in all the ways that do matter (the envy, hypocritical tendencies)
although I'm still a little confused about what the food / energy bar is trying to show, I think it's pointing out how the older one desperately tries to maintain the "higher ground" upon which to judge and patronize the younger sibling plus show of hypocritical tendencies? in the shorter version it shows she's always eating energy bars rather than food
ugh what gets me is that from the outside they're really just "responsible girls raised well" when inside they're utterly broken and miserable
the fact that toxic parenting can be so hidden and yet perpetuating is terrible ahhh
also I recommend reading the shorter version as well in Bad Candy You Give Me, it does better in two major ways
(1) portraying the differences in expectations and oppression just based on age alone
(2) older sister trying to not be like the mother in all the ways that doesn't matter (offering skincare the mother disdained, persuading her to dress more "wildly") and yet she's the same in all the ways that do matter (the envy, hypocritical tendencies)
although I'm still a little confused about what the food / energy bar is trying to show, I think it's pointing out how the older one desperately tries to maintain the "higher ground" upon which to judge and patronize the younger sibling plus show of hypocritical tendencies? in the shorter version it shows she's always eating energy bars rather than food
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I used to be like her until i sudden snapped and just left. Remain no contact with the family for 4 years now. What the point in having to stay to just be compare with the rest of the siblings until its screwed up your head thinking that you worth nothing and the only thing that you capable of is just cleaning everyone else shit.
Worse part is when your sibling just stare and do nothing. Thou the ending is not what i had expected (wish she just snapped at funeral processions to everyone) but its feel real, she turned into something that she hated and at the last panel she realise that she subconciously imitate her mom. That food/energy bar represent her personality is fighting between the daughter that her mom expected to be and her true self i guess
Worse part is when your sibling just stare and do nothing. Thou the ending is not what i had expected (wish she just snapped at funeral processions to everyone) but its feel real, she turned into something that she hated and at the last panel she realise that she subconciously imitate her mom. That food/energy bar represent her personality is fighting between the daughter that her mom expected to be and her true self i guess
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😣 its never ending circles. the grandma do it o the mom, the mom do it to eldest sister and now she do it to her younger sister. i know how she feel, its like hell.
anyway thanks for the explanation 😊
😣 its never ending circles. the grandma do it o the mom, the mom do it to eldest sister and now she do it to her younger sister. i know how she feel, its like hell.
anyway thanks for the explanation 😊
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