I'm 100% sure that he is not trying to be in control. Not only is she stronger than him(which we've seen multiple times already), but he also said that there's nothing he could do if she were to leave. I mean, what could he do? Stop her with force? Blackmail her? With what object/picture? What family?
Tbh, being in control doesn't mean physically only. I think you missed the point.
As I said, it's about when he "tries to shut down her dreams/opinions"....and again, as i said, maybe he does from a rational point for her best interest.
I said that he might still be scared of losing her, because i fell hard for her. I never said he wants her to stay even if he have to force her or blackmail her. Big emphasis on that might.
The fact that he wants her to study, to find a "proper" employment, the fact that he wants to close the physical distance...in my personal opinion, it's more like he wants to give her a reason to stay with him (which is different from forcing her, imo)
And I want to reinforce that it's not always that i get this feeling, as most of the time, they are a cute couple that care deeply for each other....in their own ways