I want to believe that his father is an okay person.Haejoon: looks happy, even Eunyung comments on it
Wanan: Let me change that real quick
i like to think Eunyung stood behind them the entire time xD
My first reaction was to automatically assume he has some ulterior motives, as that's typically what happens in these situations.I could see her doing exactly what the father said, cutting off all ties with him and never letting him see Haejoon.
I mean, what you said is definitely possible, but do you think it would end like that? Remember that this is...close to? Is the actual? Last arc. We're apparently really near to the end.I'm calling it: the father is nice at first but will ask Haejoon for money to help pay off the debts.
...This shocked me so much, i never thought we'd see Haejoon's dad. And he actually looks like him!! unlike Eunyung's parents....
also i do not like Haejoon's dad. Like not ONE birthday letter?? blaming her taking Haejoon?? DEBT??? hell no
I'm hinting at this in my other statements, but I'm ultimately reading this in light of 1) the title of this arc, that being Haejoon's home, and 2) the fact(?) that this series is ending soon. In that light, I don't think we would see a super sad ending. That doesn't really seem like a thing this author is going for. Like, the author probably isn't going to kill off all the cast of children and make them ghosts that only Haejoon can see. For the same reasons, I don't think that the author would make this super sad with his father.My first reaction was to automatically assume he has some ulterior motives, as that's typically what happens in these situations.
But I started to think about how Haejoon's mom has been portrayed, and his story lines up pretty well with her personality. It also doesnt seem like he completely hates/blames her.
I'm still a bit sus because it shouldn't have taken him this long to reach out. She cut him off, yes but (to me) it seems as if he still had avenues to reach her. But also where was he when she died? How was the court/government/whoever able to find his uncle but not his father? Did he decline to take care of Haejoon? I have no idea how the system works in Korea, so I wouldn't be surprised if I was missing something. Still, I do hope he is genuine.
he got in contact with his uncle,...
No. How? How could he even send a birthday letter? Look at his words. "your mother cut off contact and left"
How would he have sent any birthday letters or anything at all?
I mean, you're free to not like him. I don't care.he got in contact with his uncle,
plus it's been awhile since Haejoon's mother has passed and he's only showing up now, he didnt even come to the funeral
so i still dont like him lol
its been about a year since Haejoon's mother passed. If it wasn't for his uncle, Haejoon would've been screwed over by now. I can forgive not coming to the funeral if it was immediately after her passing but the time he spent not seeing Haejoon is unacceptable. He already said he was waiting for "a point where he could breathe" meanwhile Haejoon was suffering by his lonesome. Like Haejoon is a kid and his father is a grown man yet he didn't bother to check up on him at all. I think thats a pretty valid reason not to like the guyI mean, you're free to not like him. I don't care.
But you didn't even really try to answer the question of how.
The mother's funeral was probably right after the mother's death. That's generally how those things work. So it makes sense that the father wouldn't have known about it or shown up to it. But apparently that's not good enough and you say "he didn't EVEN come to the funeral"?
Like, sure, if you don't like him, whatever. I don't have a problem with you questioning how it's been a while and he only showed up now. But you're kind of reaching with the funeral issue.
And those are valid criticisms. I literally said that in my previous post. I am not disagreeing with you on that part.its been about a year since Haejoon's mother passed. If it wasn't for his uncle, Haejoon would've been screwed over by now. I can forgive not coming to the funeral if it was immediately after her passing but the time he spent not seeing Haejoon is unacceptable. He already said he was waiting for "a point where he could breathe" meanwhile Haejoon was suffering by his lonesome. Like Haejoon is a kid and his father is a grown man yet he didn't bother to check up on him at all. I think thats a pretty valid reason not to like the guy
He hasn't been a father to Haejoon at all, its not unfair to say its crappy that he hasn't been there because it is crappy. Theres no good excuse to be a deadbeat father. I think its more unfair that Haejoon had to grow up without a father because he couldn't handle his issue with Haejoon's mom like an adult. He just ran away from his problems for 10+ years. Anything would've been better than 10 years of nothing, even if it was just one birthday letter and he couldnt even do thatAnd those are valid criticisms. I literally said that in my previous post. I am not disagreeing with you on that part.
I did very clearly disagree on the funeral part, but I was very clear about the rest.
I did separately, in previous comments, give possibilities for the year-long absence after the mother's passing. Maybe he found out about the mother's death by government notification, and by that point, Haejoon was with his uncle. Let's say that's maybe one or two months. That's a reasonable time frame. He could've also been told that Haejoon lived in a dorm at school, so there would've been no point for him to appear and destabilize Haejoon's life, especially if he was in debt. Maybe he couldn't even travel because he couldn't afford to with his debt. Even a bus ticket to another city can be too much for the poor. It's also possible that he was in contact with the uncle shortly after the mother's passing, and the uncle told him not to come or contact Haejoon, possibly in respect of his mother's wishes.
Or maybe I'm completely making things up and the father is bad news, just as you and some other people fear. I acknowledge that possibility.
My only point about your post was that the funeral comment seemed unfair. And that's in line with how it was also unfair for you to expect him to send birthday cards when the mother had cut off all contact with him. The rest was generally fine.
Literally, mother prevented him from being there as a father.He hasn't been a father to Haejoon at all, its not unfair to say its crappy that he hasn't been there because it is crappy. Theres no good excuse to be a deadbeat father. I think its more unfair that Haejoon had to grow up without a father because he couldn't handle his issue with Haejoon's mom like an adult. He just ran away from his problems for 10+ years. Anything would've been better than 10 years of nothing, even if it was just one birthday letter and he couldnt even do that