Otonari no Tenshi-sama ni Itsu no Ma ni ka Dame Ningen ni Sareteita Ken - Vol. 5 Ch. 20.3

[kyongkyong]

today we feast

 

[ZelLiSonAs]

Relationships are not a challenge or competition; the basis of a healthy romantic relationship is being able to put your partner’s needs and desires before your own. That’s some of why trust is so important between partners.

If you’re going to let someone into your life, to become truly deeply important to you and foster a healthy relationship, it’s necessary that you care for them strongly, and vice-versa. Pride is, by its nature, going to stunt that and always place yourself before them. There’s an upper limit to how close, how “in love” you can get with that mindset. There’s a limit to unity with that mindset.

Wisdom in relationships is deeply important. Being aware of how you’re doing and if your partner really does want the best for you. Being aware of your own well-being, and knowing if you need to have a difficult conversation with them. But the goal there is always to move towards a relationship of trust and selflessness in a healthy, supportive manner. That’s what makes a relationship last; that’s what is always reflected in the best stories of love and romance since the beginning of time.

TL;DR - Relationships need trust, need some level of self-sacrifice/devotion, and only progress by letting go of self-pride while becoming something better.

I couldn't agree more.
However, being 'wrapped around someone's finger' just because they act a bit sweetly to you sounds a bit one-sided to me, not exactly an equal relationship.

 

[Superpeanut]

I couldn't agree more.
However, being 'wrapped around someone's finger' just because they act a bit sweetly to you sounds a bit one-sided to me, not exactly an equal relationship.

It’s going to heavily depend on the person. Think of it a bit like how people’s humor changes from situation to situation, or around different friends. I have friends who I can make some harsher jokes to, but I know we are all joking around. But I’d never make some of those jokes to other friends, because they wouldn’t find it amusing.

The “wrapped around their finger” thing is the same. If someone is manipulating a person into doing what they want, as a selfish or controlling action, then yeah that’s a no-no. That’s abusive, and controlling, and toxic. It shows they only care about themselves.
But if it’s in good fun… that’s a different story. I have a genuine desire to do whatever my girlfriend wants me to do because I like seeing her happy. Her happiness is something I can take part in. And, importantly, it’s the same for her. So it’s a back and forth, not one-sided manipulation. Does she have me wrapped around her finger, and have me wanting to do what she wants? Yep. But that goes both ways, and she’s in the same situation herself. The end result is just “we like making each other happy” because the focus is “on the other person’s joy”.

Basically, just watch for if a person is selfish, I guess. If they always put themselves above others, acting with mighty pride and ego… then yeah that’s no good lol. If they put the well-being of others first, then you’re probably on the right path.

 

[BolzanoBozen]

Chat can someone tell me estimated chapters left before they started dating?

 

[Indivinity]

Chat can someone tell me estimated chapters left before they started dating?

Spoiler: Estimated No. of chapters before confession (Click at own risk)

Another 22 or so chapters. Also, please don't reply to this in a way that might accidentally spoil others!