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Shachiku-san wa Youjo Yuurei ni Iyasaretai. - Vol. 2 Ch. 33
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@Darthskippy Thanks for the support. I feel better now after some food and sleep. Also, I appreciate your work on this and Creepy Cat, plus the recommendation for The Corporate slave OL and the demon shota. Life throws things at you and it's good to take it easy every so often. You'll get to it when you get to it. Enjoy your time with your new puppy; they grow up fast.
Regarding my previous comments, who knows what the future holds. Maybe I'll have a change of heart about kids or find someone else. Perhaps those reminders from relatives may become less "gentle" and more urgent, or alternately they ask less frequently over time. But I'm sure I'll figure things out, one loli shota cat step at a time. (Seriously though, I'd take a cat over a kid any day).
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Previously we have Yuuki Onna (Snow Ghost Woman), now we have a Yuuki Loli (Young Snow Ghost Girl)
@Candymon | You don't need to rush when it comes to relationships (I feel sorry for your breakup, hope you'll get back in shape real soon).
By the name of the one and only lord of wholesomeness, I bless ye to have a great day/night
@Candymon | You don't need to rush when it comes to relationships (I feel sorry for your breakup, hope you'll get back in shape real soon).
Kids? They're probably gonna be the biggest bet of your whole life, whether you want them or not is something you'll have to decide on quite earlier than expected, just make sure you won't regret it later on after you've made your final decision.
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@Human_the_2nd What's the Yuuki Loli going to do? Warm our cold, frozen hearts? 😉
Thanks for the kind words! I wish I had taken a closer look at things during the relationship and not worried so much about familial/societal pressures. Maybe I would have made better decisions for myself...
(No need to read this next part if you don't have time, long story ahead)
Thanks for the kind words! I wish I had taken a closer look at things during the relationship and not worried so much about familial/societal pressures. Maybe I would have made better decisions for myself...
(No need to read this next part if you don't have time, long story ahead)
It would have been our fifth dating anniversary this past Saturday. We were engaged at one point, broke it off, got back together, and now probably broken up for good. This is my longest serious relationship so far, and it just feels so strange that a big part of my life is no longer there.
The first two years were pretty good. We went out on a lot of dates and we felt so close. Then we got engaged, I moved in for over a year, started to go out less (my ex didn't like most of my friends and eventually refused to hang out with them; got along well with my large extended family though), had a lot of arguments (living together with someone can be a very different experience), and then moved back out when we decided to separate the first time. We stayed in contact (maybe a bad decision on my part) and whenever I was over I would happily cook and also do dishes and laundry just like before. Eventually after about a year, I convinced my ex to get back together, but it wasn't the same. My ex was always texting or looking at something on the phone, never wanted to go out, and expected me to continue cooking and whatnot.
When my ex broke it off again a couple months ago, I found out part of the reason why we broke off the engagement was apparently my ex had fallen in love with someone married(!). That person wouldn't leave their SO and kids, so my ex came back to me and wanted to try to work things out. I had felt that my ex had been a lot less intimate with me during the latter half of this relationship, and now I knew why. I packed up all my stuff that I still had at my ex's apartment, and here I am now back at my place. I still haven't told any of my friends or family because I defended my ex when we first broke up, and then they were so happy to see us when I went home this past Christmas holiday with my ex in tow. Now I just feel stupid and embarrassed, especially after ignoring numerous signs and wasting the last two years of my life on this.
The first two years were pretty good. We went out on a lot of dates and we felt so close. Then we got engaged, I moved in for over a year, started to go out less (my ex didn't like most of my friends and eventually refused to hang out with them; got along well with my large extended family though), had a lot of arguments (living together with someone can be a very different experience), and then moved back out when we decided to separate the first time. We stayed in contact (maybe a bad decision on my part) and whenever I was over I would happily cook and also do dishes and laundry just like before. Eventually after about a year, I convinced my ex to get back together, but it wasn't the same. My ex was always texting or looking at something on the phone, never wanted to go out, and expected me to continue cooking and whatnot.
When my ex broke it off again a couple months ago, I found out part of the reason why we broke off the engagement was apparently my ex had fallen in love with someone married(!). That person wouldn't leave their SO and kids, so my ex came back to me and wanted to try to work things out. I had felt that my ex had been a lot less intimate with me during the latter half of this relationship, and now I knew why. I packed up all my stuff that I still had at my ex's apartment, and here I am now back at my place. I still haven't told any of my friends or family because I defended my ex when we first broke up, and then they were so happy to see us when I went home this past Christmas holiday with my ex in tow. Now I just feel stupid and embarrassed, especially after ignoring numerous signs and wasting the last two years of my life on this.
When I was growing up, I thought I would be married by 22 (dreamed of finding a college sweetheart), travel a bit, and then have kids by 25. Clearly neither of those have happened yet. This is probably the first time in my life, however, where I feel like I don't need to have kids and that'd be okay. It's very freeing. I'm sure I'll catch hell from my parents, aunts and uncles, and several of my close cousins, but I hope I'll have the strength to endure if that's what my partner and I decide.
Maybe because my subconscious realized something was off during the last few years, I'm strangely excited to go meet someone new! Honestly, I don't know if I'm truly ready to start dating again, as I probably need to sort my life out first and I still feel sad from time to time, but I want to make up for the lost time with someone who hopefully truly cares about me (and only me).
Otherwise I'm going to get a cat, catch up on all those movies and tv series I've been wanting to watch, and sip from a glass of brandy, mezcal, or saké (no wine, because you know the cat is going to smack it out of my hand/off the table at some point and it'll stain stuff, haha) to spend my days.
Sorry for hijacking the comment section for this chapter, but also thanks for reading and allowing me to let it out. Writing it out makes it feel more real, otherwise I think I'd still be in denial about this.
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@Candymon | From what I've read you seem to- no, you definitely had a rough time with that relationship
I'm glad you let all that pent up feelings of discomfort out and endured it like a champ (instead of... well, y'know what happens to those who don't have a strong grip and intentionally holds back their problems...
)
You seem to be moving on pretty nicely, so keep that optimism up cause you'll need it for this current pandemic (I'm honestly pretty thankful this pandemic isn't as fatally destructive as the bubonic plague and could much easily be prevented than it)
For now, you can take a rest from thinking about those relationships and just relax cause this is not the season to be searching for any direct relationships.
Hopefully you'll find your destined person pretty soon, so have a nice day/night wherever you are and enjoy life as it is
I'm glad you let all that pent up feelings of discomfort out and endured it like a champ (instead of... well, y'know what happens to those who don't have a strong grip and intentionally holds back their problems...
or in other words; suicide
You seem to be moving on pretty nicely, so keep that optimism up cause you'll need it for this current pandemic (I'm honestly pretty thankful this pandemic isn't as fatally destructive as the bubonic plague and could much easily be prevented than it)
For now, you can take a rest from thinking about those relationships and just relax cause this is not the season to be searching for any direct relationships.
Hopefully you'll find your destined person pretty soon, so have a nice day/night wherever you are and enjoy life as it is
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@Human_the_2nd It's funny how we're blind to things until we get some distance and perspective.
I do think that I'm holding up better than I expected, given the breakup, being isolated in a city away from family, and not really seeing anyone else much other than my sweet old lady neighbor (she somehow always has "extra" food to give me). Honestly, I feel like a mess, but I suppose I have some time while this global pandemic is still ongoing to try to turn my life around. Maybe I'll do some solo travel once things calm down. I don't know. Anyways, thanks for the encouragement. I hope you're holding up well during this unusual time, and may you find joy in the things that matter.
I'm not generally an emotional person, but I cried a lot during the latter half of this relationship during and after arguments, and maybe I should have taken that as a sign that something was wrong. I was clearly letting unhappiness out. We would then make up, but I'm not sure the frequency or intensity was healthy.
To most people externally, I'm known as a calm person even under pressure. But I've also been told by others that I seem distant or cold. Also been called a "survivor", someone that gets better through adversity, that I have a "tough shell," and very "independent." Sometimes I wonder who is saying that to me as an actual compliment versus a backhanded one, because I definitely know not everyone got along with or likes me, but I like to think that it makes most people not make light of me after we get past the first impressions. I tend to see the best in people, but I'm secretly worried that most people don't see the same in me or that I don't line up with their "expectations."
I also consider myself fortunate in many aspects of life. I've seen other people go through worst things than me and usually survive and move on in some shape or form (and those who don't, at least tie up loose ends so that they don't have regrets and can find peace in the end). I hope that I will never have to test those kind of limits. I'd rather not know or experience things that might break me unless I have to... and I'm much more afraid of death than I am of pain and conflict, so "losing grip of myself" would be an option I would strongly avoid. I'd rather eat, laugh, drink, and sleep, in hopes that the next day will be better.
To most people externally, I'm known as a calm person even under pressure. But I've also been told by others that I seem distant or cold. Also been called a "survivor", someone that gets better through adversity, that I have a "tough shell," and very "independent." Sometimes I wonder who is saying that to me as an actual compliment versus a backhanded one, because I definitely know not everyone got along with or likes me, but I like to think that it makes most people not make light of me after we get past the first impressions. I tend to see the best in people, but I'm secretly worried that most people don't see the same in me or that I don't line up with their "expectations."
I also consider myself fortunate in many aspects of life. I've seen other people go through worst things than me and usually survive and move on in some shape or form (and those who don't, at least tie up loose ends so that they don't have regrets and can find peace in the end). I hope that I will never have to test those kind of limits. I'd rather not know or experience things that might break me unless I have to... and I'm much more afraid of death than I am of pain and conflict, so "losing grip of myself" would be an option I would strongly avoid. I'd rather eat, laugh, drink, and sleep, in hopes that the next day will be better.
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People I used to get along when they were just small kids or toddlers still get along with me after they grow up, even if I already was an adult when they were born. I don't share this view that kids are only good when they are small or the opposite people who say kids are terrible. I do find the small ones more adorable but I still get along with them when they become adults.
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