@luardemin
When you associate a word with a pejorative meaning (for example here "gay" means "lame" or "something bad" and the likes), then the word itself becomes pejorative, because of the circumstances.
BTW, "gay" also means "merry". And he word "gay" is also used to describe people who are attracted to their own gender. The problem is, when you use "gay" as an insult, it comes off as if being gay in itself is somehow "bad". And when you normalize this usage, it can lead to many problems. The more people normalize it, it becomes more acceptable and before you know it, gay is used as an insult (honestly, that's how your notes came off), and that will justify treating gay people bad, just because being gay is considered bad (following that logic). You see the vicious circle? It might not harm you, but might harm a friend, or a family member or that cute girl/guy at the corner shop you chat with everytime you make a purchase.
It's dangerous because it doesn't seem harmful. But when you use a word associated with a group of people as an insult, it can quickly get out of hand. You, yourself mentioned earlier they were just "careless remarks". Your carelessness can hurt people.
Being gay is okay. Not being gay is okay. If you want to say you changed the wording because you don't like it, that's your prerogative as a translator. Most often than not, literal translations wouldn't work, anyway.
And thanks for not taking it personally and replying with a cool head. I appreciate that and sorry for my earlier insult. Even though the notes ticked me off, I shouldn't have done that.
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@twinklecake Please don't put words in my mouth. Also, the word "gay" is used as an insult in the T/N notes.
And I'm not offended. I just don't want this heavy prejudice against the word "gay" and what it encompasses. Feel free to read my reply to luardemin above, and I know you might laugh how I have such a vivid imagination, but dang, have you looked at the news lately how out of propotion is hate already? (Especially in the US where they think hate speech falls under free speech which is total BS.)
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I hope I could relay my thoughts properly; sorry if I couldn't, English is my second language. And it's always a bit hard to collect your thoughts when something disturbs you and you have to explain the reason.
Anyway. These are my thoughts on the matter. And if lot of people give you similar feedback, maybe it's worth to lend them an ear, hm?