That's why first dates should be for a single drink only and not a meal or several drinks. That's good enough to know if you want to go further. If they don't want to continue because you didn't spend enough, you're cheap, or they wanted a meal then you dodged a bullet.Please don't take my statement as a generalization on women but, "foodie calls" exist
https://www.newsweek.com/foodie-calls-women-dates-free-meals-personality-trait-1445156
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/science/2019/06/21/rise-foodie-call-one-third-women-date-get-free-meal/
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It's not like Ye Olden Days. Too many women have bought into the crap that to be a Modern Women you have treat guys as wallets.