Wǒ Jiā Lǎopo Láizì Yīqiān Nián Qián - Ch. 28

[MangaDex]

 

[GetsBeat]

Sigh, the older generation just doesn't understand the struggle right now...

 

[yatanogarasu]

She thought he was a eunuch.

 

[younes.fchbfilali]

Sigh, the older generation just doesn't understand the struggle right now...

Frfr woman these days are dangerous creatures “if ya don’t find the right one you will be done and pushed aside like a dumb dumb”

Written by
Younes
Me😂😂

 

[AzrefReza]

Are all Asian parents really that toxic?

 

[Binguo]

Are all Asian parents really that toxic?

Unfortunately, yeah. It also can be worst depending on each household. The one seen here seems to be the average household though. I know my friends that had it worse which is downright toxic, this one seems to just be the nagging/complaining/comparison type.
Some other goes as far as to physically abuse or demand an result/output from them with no love or warthm and treats them as tools rather than child, tough love is hard, man.

 

[AzrefReza]

Unfortunately, yeah. It also can be worst depending on each household. The one seen here seems to be the average household though. I know my friends that had it worse which is downright toxic, this one seems to just be the nagging/complaining/comparison type.
Some other goes as far as to physically abuse or demand an result/output from them with no love or warthm and treats them as tools rather than child, tough love is hard, man.

It’s a good thing we Europeans left that in 19th century Prussia…

 

[Binguo]

It’s a good thing we Europeans left that in 19th century Prussia…

Bwahahahaha, well it is what it is, hence I don't blame them hence why i said its tough love. But there are good families too, so its not all doom and gloom, but those that had to deal with it are gonna be mentally drained and so on.
The constant comparison and judgement induces anxiety, low self-esteem, and a feeling that one will never be enough. and it is also common to see many toxic parents disguise emotional neglect or abuse under the guise of "tough love."

Heck, even for me; despite them being on the nicer end of the spectrum, they are nagging/comparing type, so at times it does really feel draining to deal with them and that i'd like to move out just for the sake of my sanity/mentally (I won't lie) xD but that they do want the best for their child and me, so i really can't complain much. Plus a good talking and discussion always helps.

That's why im very grateful to them for hearing me out and allowing me to have our ways of doing things compared to the old times.

 

[AzrefReza]

Bwahahahaha, well it is what it is, hence I don't blame them hence why i said its tough love. But there are good families too, so its not all doom and gloom, but those that had to deal with it are gonna be mentally drained and so on.
The constant comparison and judgement induces anxiety, low self-esteem, and a feeling that one will never be enough. and it is also common to see many toxic parents disguise emotional neglect or abuse under the guise of "tough love."

Heck, even for me; despite them being on the nicer end of the spectrum, they are nagging/comparing type, so at times it does really feel draining to deal with them and that i'd like to move out just for the sake of my sanity/mentally (I won't lie) xD but that they do want the best for their child and me, so i really can't complain much. Plus a good talking and discussion always helps.

That's why im very grateful to them for hearing me out and allowing me to have our ways of doing things compared to the old times.

I was saying it on a joking tone because it’s a heavy subject, but I’m actually rather serious. I’m not from the “king child” kind of family, so I obviously have no problem with the idea of disciplining children and not catering to their every whim. But the one and only thing my parents imposed on my sister and me regarding our future, was that we had to be able to put bread on the table. The rest has always been up to us. So my parents both have a PhD, while my sister is a cleaning lady, and they don’t give a fuck. And while not all parents have expressed it as explicitly, I feel like it’s a rather common conception here. And by contrast, I find it somewhat horrifying that the opinion of the neighbors could prevail on your own child’s happiness. I know they probably don’t see it that way, but from my stand point, that’s what it is…

 

[Binguo]

I was saying it on a joking tone because it’s a heavy subject, but I’m actually rather serious. I’m not from the “king child” kind of family, so I obviously have no problem with the idea of disciplining children and not catering to their every whim. But the one and only thing my parents imposed on my sister and me regarding our future, was that we had to be able to put bread on the table. The rest has always been up to us. So my parents both have a PhD, while my sister is a cleaning lady, and they don’t give a fuck. And while not all parents have expressed it as explicitly, I feel like it’s a rather common conception here. And by contrast, I find it somewhat horrifying that the opinion of the neighbors could prevail on your own child’s happiness. I know they probably don’t see it that way, but from my stand point, that’s what it is…

Ahaha sorry about it, but yeah that's good parenting to me honestly, I personally abide by your parent's method, as long you can feed and take care of yourself, all is good. But how society views you purely based off what you work and their impression of you matters too much in asian culture and seeps in deep, and anytime that you're not working you're ass off toward becoming something they believe to be the best for you will cause them to be disappointed in you.

So I don't think I'll change easily, but I am seeing the future asian generations taking a turn and changing the ways, so I'm pretty glad for that. It's been nice chatting with ya, cheers bud!