@MidnighTea i did not say i was trans as to make a statement regarding all transpeople, i said it to give background on why my opinion on what trap means matters
secondly, i didnt say other trans cant be offended, they sure can, and i can think its stupid for thinking that because trap quite literally does not refer to transpeople, but i can respect their feelings on the matter
i think what im trying to convey is simple: trap is not a slur, however it can be used like a slur
by claiming "trap is a slur" it ends up being where you cant say the word at all, even when refering to actual traps (crossdressers almost always like being called a trap) which is just wrong, thats like trying to claim that "cracker" is a slur because some people use that to refer to skin colour .... it can be used offensively but it in and of itself is not offensive
basically context matters
(PS. nearly all of my transgirl friends quite literally call themselves traps, one of them calls themselves a "24/7 trap" ... "i have friends who are..." is anectdotal and do not nesscarily convey the majority opinion)