A Count may have a higher standing than a Baron but anyone who holds that insigna is a envoy. Basically the insigna is to be treated as an extension of the king and pretend the king himself is there and the words of the one holding the insigna is the Kings words.
"A worthy man should get her, even if its by force!" hmm, that sure sounds rapey and abusive. lol, better to be with the one you love than a bunch of concubines
Remember kids, no matter what your ancient and mighty magical alternate self says, consent is king.
Although, nothing is stopping you from asking out of the blue