Just get divorced and marry your job like you clearly want to do, for fuck's sake. What's even the point in staying married if you never interact, never see each other, have zero intimacy, don't share any free time, and don't really converse? Just be honest, say that you just don't want to lose your convenient husband who indulges your shit and makes sure you don't come home to a takeout box-littered workaholic sty, and get divorced. Pick up some young stud to clean your home and dick you down on occasion, play his sugar mommy, and that's all you need.