Eventually, yes. And she doesn't hold any grudge beyond the current one. Don't mistake what I'm talking about for anything long term. These are just short term miscommunications we're talking about.
A long time ago, I realized she's not withholding any information. I just need to catch on the first time (which usually happens when I'm being too dense to notice). Once I notice what's going on, we straighten it out.
Basically, it's just a matter of, something that seemed like an off-hand comment was really, really important. Or I should have remembered something she said in the past.
Men and women just have very different communication protocols.
I definitely understand men and women perceiving communication differently is part of biology. From what you're saying, though, it still sounds like she's holding you to your mistake until you 'figure it out yourself', which I tend to hear or read about a lot in relationships, and that goes for both short and long term spats.
Also, women tend to hold onto these sorts of grudges, big or small, for longer and more often than men would think, at least in these current times.
If your relationship with her is still healthy, more power to you, I'm just going off of what you told me and how I, myself, tend to be more dense and closed-off from the deeper meaning of what other people are saying or behaving. Maybe that shows more how unready I am for a committed relationship, myself, if I can't adapt myself like you have for 30 years in yours, which is very impressive in itself.