Ya'll saying a gunshot wound is less painful than childbirth -- try passing a kidney stone through a pee-pee. Then scale up the size.
While it's true that if you survive you might ultimately be left carrying a bullet in you that'll set off every metal detector, at least you don't have to devote the next twenty plus years of your life trying to build it into a person from scratch. And ideally saving money for its higher education.
And consider what it means to be a good mom vs a good yakuza. A good yakuza gets to ultimately enjoy booze, drugs and hookers. Do you think a mom worth a damn gets that side benefit? Not unless she wants to wind up on a daytime talkshow.