Then I guess part of being an "adult" is just accepting things as is and try to only look forward as long as they lead to "happiness". If things work out on both sides, then it works - that kind of mentality. If that's what the author is trying to say here, then I'm cool with that.They've been in love once before already, and the husband passed more than a decade ago. Even if some stuff is unresolved emotionally, I think these adults can handle themselves.