I think it’s weird how characters are written to chase after and cling to a person they say they love without getting ANY love from them. I could never imagine trying to make someone love me for 10 years. That is insane, regardless of the other person doing not even the bare minimum for me from time to time. It wouldn’t be enough to convince me to stay. Also, there is no way Valer had no idea how she was being treated. For 10 whole years, even if he was ignoring her, there is absolutely no way he never even heard about the rumors. With how much these nobles are shown to gossip, that doesn’t make a lot of sense. That is most definitely a plot hole. Valer was not away at war for 10 years to miss out. That seems more like convenient writing to set the scene but it doesn’t make sense.