I Thought She Was a Yandere, but Apparently She's Even Worse - Ch. 18

[Kaisermutt]

The dating scene is fucked up everywhere, because too many men can't act like normal, social human beings and think they are entitled to approach someone they don't know, just because they think that person is attractive, without any kind of self-awareness to figure out when it's appropriate.

I honestly hope you never get to experience what it's like to be approached out of the blue by someone bigger and stronger than you, just because they find you attractive, and knowing what really happens when you refuse anything. Then again, you'd finally understand why it's harassment.

Jfc why is there discourse about gender dynamics in the comments section for a trashy twitter manga.

 

[BuyVelomobiles]

Jfc why is there discourse about gender dynamics in the comments section for a trashy twitter manga.

Some people don't know the meaning of the word "escapism", and see every story as an opportunity to make these kinds of comments and statements.

 

[altmaria]

Jeez you are either actually stupid or don't understand interactions between people. Probably a mix of both. They did not "mess" with her they called out to her to talk to her. Not hard to figure out. I'd agree they were "messing with her" if they kept interacting with her despite her saying no and obvious disinterest and obvious discomfort. That did not happen here so shut it on the harassing angle that did not happen here.

The only reason they stopped was because she managed to intimidate them, otherwise they wouldn't and would keep on insisting. In fact, if you don't assume that the trope doesn't even work.

Also clothes have everything to do with it. You do understand how you dress is how people perceive you right? Like the stupid bs of "don't judge a book by it's cover" is obvious bullshit. Everyone judges people on how they dress it is intrinsic to human nature. She dresses like, in crass terms, a "bad bitch queen". The kind of girl who is high maintenance that knows her value and has the looks to back it up. That's why her cold demeanor when telling them off had them react the way they did thinking they were peasants.

Now lastly why him bringing out her girly side is amazing is because from the small time they interacted with her they assumed she was a cold high maintenance girl. Seeing someone bring this side of her out is impressive. It's like when you know someone who's very quiet with others but is very talkative with you. That kind of observation is surprising to people.

Lol that judgment is all learned, it's not "natural". It also really shows just how judgmental you are. Just because you are, doesn't mean everyone else is. You can also unlearn it, especially with therapy.

Get bigger physically and show off an aura of not be messed with. It's pathetic to be afraid when you go out. Or better yet just run away literally the go to option. Whenever some stranger tries to talk to me the first thing I do is ignore them and if that doesn't work tell them to back off and give off a don't mess with me look. Violence is always a last resort.

Is it that hard to understand why that kind of advice doesn't really work for women? It's pretty telling that you didn't even understand why SorrelManga903 made that comparison.

 

[BuyVelomobiles]

The only reason they stopped was because she managed to intimidate them, otherwise they wouldn't and would keep on insisting. In fact, if you don't assume that the trope doesn't even work.

It doesn't matter why they stopped. Talking so someone once, then not talking to them anymore when they tell you to leave them alone is the exact opposite of "harassment".

Lol that judgment is all learned, it's not "natural". It also really shows just how judgmental you are. Just because you are, doesn't mean everyone else is. You can also unlearn it, especially with therapy.

I get the feeling you went to college...

Is it that hard to understand why that kind of advice doesn't really work for women? It's pretty telling that you didn't even understand why SorrelManga903 made that comparison.

This is advice from a man, to a man. I know it's hard to understand sometimes, but people talk about things besides you, and whatever you're talking about... when they're not talking to you.

 

[altmaria]

It doesn't matter why they stopped. Talking so someone once, then not talking to them anymore when they tell you to leave them alone is the exact opposite of "harassment".

It's harassment because they decided to talk to her out of the blue in the first place, saying "Hey Sweet-hart! All alone? Someone keepin'ya waiting?", which is said specifically to mess with her.

I get the feeling you went to college...

You didn't? It's never too late though if that's the case!

This is advice from a man, to a man. I know it's hard to understand sometimes, but people talk about things besides you, and whatever you're talking about... when they're not talking to you.

Why are you assuming I'm not a man as well? Also, SorrelManga903 was adding to what I said, quoting me in the process:

To add to this, I don't know how someone would be comfortable with (let alone a woman alone on a street) two dudes who were physically bigger than them approaching them and asking if they're alone. Hell I'm just a short dude and if two people a head taller than me came up to me asking if I was alone I'd be thinking I'm about to be kidnapped (not even considering the immediate possibility of sexual assault), like wtf am I supposed to do when they've got 200-300 pounds on me combined?

 

[Deszera]

onee-san ara ara's lil shota boy

 

[BuyVelomobiles]

It's harassment because they decided to talk to her out of the blue in the first place, saying "Hey Sweet-hart! All alone? Someone keepin'ya waiting?", which is said specifically to mess with her.

It's said to pick her up. They're hitting on her. If I genuinely need to explain this to you, you're too far gone. It's really shocking what a few years of brainwashing will do to the Human psyche.

You didn't? It's never too late though if that's the case!

Your obtuse answer doesn't change the fact that you've emerged from the experience less informed than you went in. You've gone into debt to be brainwashed into thinking absurd things like "Oh, our judgements about people's appearances are learned. We can totally socialize it all away. And we should!"

Why are you assuming I'm not a man as well?

Because men don't talk like this. You're either not a man, or you've got the testosterone level of a geriatric. Even the one guy who agreed didn't get into a weird diatribe about how this is "harassment", but rather pointed out that he, being a tiny man, would feel he's at a serious disadvantage in a fight if two grown men showed up and asked him if he was alone.

Also, SorrelManga903 was adding to what I said, quoting me in the process

Good for him. The next guy wasn't talking to you, or about you. The man gave advice to another man about something. Of course it doesn't apply to women. I'm sure you're familiar with this phrase: "It's not for you!"

 

[luigiymario2]

He's a lucky guy, that's who he is! 😤

 

[Hitspark]

That's already been revealed...she's inherently more dangerous than a typical Yandere since she's the 'princess' of a crime family.

People keep saying stuff like this but that doesn't make her special.

A ton of Yandere are over powered in their own universe. In adventure/fantasy manga they're high ranking adventurers, in crime stories they're straight up criminals, in some romance novels they're literally royals themselves. One manga is literally about how a Yandere sister is somehow bullying gods into reincarnating repeatedly just to get a shot at her brother. On that note, Yuno Gasai (the girl who pushed this trend into the mainstream) was literally GOD.

"Crime Family" only makes her more dangerous than a Yandere if we're talking bland and generic, normal people.

 

[SorrelManga903]

Get bigger physically and show off an aura of not be messed with. It's pathetic to be afraid when you go out. Or better yet just run away literally the go to option. Whenever some stranger tries to talk to me the first thing I do is ignore them and if that doesn't work tell them to back off and give off a don't mess with me look. Violence is always a last resort.

My dude I literally already give off an aura of "don't mess with me" because of past trauma, but that isn't going to do much against them if they decide to get physical since they're much bigger than me. "Getting big" also only works for some guys, as for my height even if I was like a bodybuilder and gained tons of muscle I'd still only weigh like 160lbs/72.6kg. Two guys a head taller than me would be at least 170lbs/77.1kg each at the lowest healthy body weight range, but more likely there would be a deficit of 240lbs/108.9kg to fight against.

 

[otakudude303]

Ojou used Yakuza Stare! It was super-effective!

 

[Kaisermutt]

My dude I literally already give off an aura of "don't mess with me" because of past trauma, but that isn't going to do much against them if they decide to get physical since they're much bigger than me. "Getting big" also only works for some guys, as for my height even if I was like a bodybuilder and gained tons of muscle I'd still only weigh like 160lbs/72.6kg. Two guys a head taller than me would be at least 170lbs/77.1kg each at the lowest healthy body weight range, but more likely there would be a deficit of 240lbs/108.9kg to fight against.

Ever heard of guns? Or cops for that matter.

 

[SorrelManga903]

This is advice from a man, to a man. I know it's hard to understand sometimes, but people talk about things besides you, and whatever you're talking about... when they're not talking to you.

This doesn't really matter though, as not all men can really "get big" to begin with; it's also not like it matters if they were talking to her or to a man since there are groups of men who can't get big for a variety of reasons and there are groups of women who potentially could

 

[SorrelManga903]

Ever heard of guns? Or cops for that matter.

I mean yeah but the average response times of cops isn't really good enough for that to be much of a deterrent (I'd either be beat up and then released after a car chase or the like, or I'd be beat up and kidnapped - I don't really like either options lol). As for guns, due to my living situation I can't really have those (college)

 

[BuyVelomobiles]

This doesn't really matter though, as not all men can really "get big" to begin with

Yeah they can.

it's also not like it matters if they were talking to her or to a man since there are groups of men who can't get big for a variety of reasons and there are groups of women who potentially could

Women are weaker than men, though. A lot weaker. You'd have to be a tiny, tiny man to be beaten by the average woman. Not to mention men have way more testosterone than women. It absolutely matters who he's talking to.

 

[Kuraiaku]

It's pretty sad when people project their insecurities or trauma onto fictional character and argue over nothing with random strangers in the internet.

 

[SorrelManga903]

Yeah they can.

I don't think 160lbs is "big" my guy, at the very least when compared to two 190-200+ dudes who are like a foot taller than me.

Women are weaker than men, though. A lot weaker. You'd have to be a tiny, tiny man to be beaten by the average woman. Not to mention men have way more testosterone than women. It absolutely matters who he's talking to.

This is true generally, but that doesn't mean women can't achieve a better physique/strength than the vast majority of men out there. It's a lot harder, but it is possible (plus it's not like all men work out)

 

[BuyVelomobiles]

I don't think 160lbs is "big" my guy, at the very least when compared to two 190-200+ dudes who are like a foot taller than me.

How tall are you?

This is true generally, but that doesn't mean women can't achieve a better physique/strength than the vast majority of men out there. It's a lot harder, but it is possible (plus it's not like all men work out)

Months to years of work to achieve baseline male performance isn't enough for you to go around the internet telling everyone about it. I don't even know how to talk to you when you say this since it's technically true, but in a way that doesn't matter. Great, less than one in five women might be around as strong as your average man. On that same note, I'm technically capable of shooting a 3 pointer blindfolded.

 

[chojinra]

This is hilarious and sad at the same time... What is the mindset to write guys this way? They essentially harassed her and she told them off, why would they think she can't be all fluffy to a guy she actually knows and likes, and why would they put her bf in some kind of pedestal just because he's acting like a human being to someone he knows?

Uh.. I don't think it's harassment to speak out to someone you're interested in getting to know on a sociable level. Sure, if they saw she wasn't interested and kept at it it might be harassment, but they kept it moving.

If anything, they're probably amazed he was able to connect with someone that attractive who responded so coldly to them. As if he has something they lack, and they respect him for it.

 

[chojinra]

The dating scene is fucked up everywhere, because too many men can't act like normal, social human beings and think they are entitled to approach someone they don't know, just because they think that person is attractive, without any kind of self-awareness to figure out when it's appropriate.

I honestly hope you never get to experience what it's like to be approached out of the blue by someone bigger and stronger than you, just because they find you attractive, and knowing what really happens when you refuse anything. Then again, you'd finally understand why it's harassment.

I mean... are we talking Wonder Woman amazon or Lizzo looking to get it on? Because... you know, maybe?

But while I can image it's difficult for a young woman out here in these streets, I think you'd have a little more security and viability in the middle of the day on a busy street. Also wouldn't blame you for assuming the worse, but I really hope you prepare for it, instead of imagining scenarios and listening to reddit stories..