@Rufrieva lol, she lied about her age. It was a long distance relationship. She lives overseas in asia and apparently it is pretty normal where she is at. I didn't know how old she actually was till I had flown in and met her parents. At that point, we had been in a relationship for 6 months and had genuine feelings for each other. Believe me, there was blind panic involved on my end. But after a google search on US laws, I found out I was in the clear and as you point out, I am in my 30s and looking to settle down. She had already said she was looking to settle down and start a family and so I said "fuck it, why not?" and continued on the relationship. Besides, she is traditional asian, so no sex before marriage. Thanks to covid, the wedding has been pushed back to a point where she will be 19. So meh.
I used to be a huge moral person in my early 20s. It just fades away as you get older and have more experience. The world goes from black and white to more grey the older i get and I end up caring less and less about what others think of my actions.
Edit: not saying there aren't problems with these sorts of relationships or that there are not predatory people. Just in my case, that is how it worked out. I just set my dating apps to look for 18-40 and younger women are pretty much the only ones who responded. So dunno.
Women seem to like guys who have their life sorted out and you usually have a stable good job and life organized by the time you hit 30s, so it seems a lot of younger ladies just look for older guys. Plus, they know that if they date an older guy, there is less likely a chance they are gonna get cheated on. Would i, a guy in his 30s, cheat on a younger lady and run the risk of ruining a great relationship? Fuck no. I am tired of that shit and want more then just sex at this point. Younger ladies have a lot of power in a relationship with older guys (usually, not talking about those billionaire elite people)