I'm Nearly 30, but This Is My First Love - Vol. 4 Ch. 33

[MangaDex]

 

[Oeconomist]

Were someone to say to me something analogous to what Yuumi's acquaintance said to Yuumi, I'd pay my part of the bill, leave, and not communicate with that person again.

It's okay to feel and to express surprise or concern, but simply to conclude that the third person is undesirable is far beyond the pale.

[Edited after another commentor noted that I'd mistaken the name of one character for that of another.]

 

[Razorace]

@Oeconomist
By Aki I assume you made a mistake and are referring to Yuumi's friend (who wasn't named).

While ideally, you'd hope never to associate with people who make assuming and rather insensitive remarks in the first place; realistically you can't avoid such instances in life and I think Yuumi handled it very well.
Just like how opinionated her friend is, there is no need to go to the extremes either to disparage her friend's remarks and force her friend to conform to the notion that Kanata is suitable for Yuumi. In the end, it is a subjective opinion from someone who doesn't know Kanata in person, rather than someone who is familiar and despite being able to see for themselves, yet still holds that prejudiced notion. Therefore, it is Yuumi's role to convince her friend of Kanata's 'suitability', should she value their friendship.

More straightforwardly you can break it down to weighing their friendship against her friend's presumptuous attitude, and in most cases, I think people are magnanimous enough to overlook some presumptuous attitude.

Rambling on a bit, but this is a really intriguing insight into relations. Call it insincere as you will, but most people in society tend to withhold negative opinions themselves and imply it through subtleties which protects you from unwanted conflict/loss (consciously or subconsciously). In this case, it would be that Yuumi managed to maintain a relationship with her friend which could benefit her (who knows? maybe you need the connection sometime later down the line or they might be able to provide an opportunity) with no immediate loss - as her friend doesn't know Kanata and therefore there is little to no chance that Kanata would hold it against Yuumi for not breaking ties with her friend.
Even more of a tangent - at the other extreme people are lulled into escapism through this mentality, by staying silent in so many cases when faced with difficult decisions; even when sometimes a definite stance is necessary and wholly lacking, especially in the political landscape of most developed western democracies.

 

[Purplelibraryguy]

Awww, cute liddle hamster saying "I will protect!"
And yet she will.

 

[Oeconomist]

@Razorace—

I'll be willing to read and to respond if you express yourself efficiently; otherwise, I'll do neither.

 

[rfs1998]

Am I the only one that feels the this is already 32 chapters and yet we are at the exact same place as chapter 1? Idk feels like nothing really happens besides the new couple

 

[tfwnowaifu]

Spoiler

A cute girl will never profess that she will protecc you ;_;

 

[Pontiff_sulyvahn]

I can't see how being 32 with no Bf/Gf is wierd

 

[Oeconomist]

@rfs1998—

I don't think that the author knows how to portray the evolutions of any of these couples beyond their early stages. Expect increasing attempts at cheap comedy by way of Kiba-san.

 

[mirp448]

she attacc
she protecc
but most importantly
she cute as hecc

 

[Silfir]

This is all very nice and all, but when are they going to fuck?

 

[Xeredge]

"Yes, please protect me." I want a girl who can protect me too. We all want to be the little spoon, it makes us feel safe.

 

[Xystus]

I'll protect you! But not from your virginity...( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

 

[VINT64]

Finally, tasty chapter again.
It's like a manual for those closing to 30 years and who haven't had love before. About what could happen to them when they finally fall in love.
That's nice one. I hope I'll meet someone I will want to protect more than myself.

 

[rymar]

>ywn be protected by a cute girl
Why even live?

 

[sarshi]

aaaa don't do that
don't yelling and fighting in restaurant, you're gonna regret it your whole life aaaaa
/kickblanket

 

[Razorace]

@Oeconomist
tl;dr ver: friendship>friend's bad habits; also there is nothing to lose by staying friends and more to gain.
Because you never know when you could use a helping hand. Therefore, the way Yuumi handled it is both realistic and preferable from a societal perspective.


*I thought what I wrote would take no more than 3mins to read haha; I wanted to expand on my thoughts a little in the form of a monologue. I mean there is no right or wrong but the differences in perspective/ultimately behaviour here can be projected onto some inherent problems which plague society (currently).

 

[GerryCeryBery]

@Razorace

It took me not even a minute to read through your more elaborate comment. Your thinking about it taking not longer than 3 minutes is correct.

 

[Angelonius]

A waifu who will protect me?
[Manami Kiba intensifies]

 

[Kisato]

No one protects like Maple.