Thank you for a good clarification.
Nope didn't read it, i rarely venture towards web-ln realm and there i would definitely see that it is boys love story and would skip it. Despite that i have a deep understanding about being disappointed when base structure of your story is being butchered by authors or publication companies (studious and etc.)
I might not understand the whole crossdressing thing nor i was pointing at that really (deception or anything like that, though i heard stories when some of those "traps" revealed it at quite risky moments for them (after kissing or getting naked)).
My point was more or less about sexuality not being as fluid as some content tries to portray it. Like it is quite clear that MC likes female physique and even feminine trait points. In the end if i presume correctly they will be a gay pair, one being ordinary the other dressing up sometimes.
I know for a fact that some straight men will engage sexually with "traps" if given enough secrecy and relationship staying just sexual.
But the very idea that someone can become a "life partner" with same gender despite being attracted to the opposite gives me the chills.(The chills are coming more from delusion not the idea of it, does it happen? Yeah likely, but those people initially were already attracted in my opinion).
As for opportunity (like trying to flirt with someone), don't see a problem with that, was confessed by a guy once, took it normally but was scared shittles a little bit, because dude decided to invite me to drink on fairly secluded place and when he confessed adrenaline pumped up a bit. But after that we had a talk and went each our ways.
I feel more anger towards those WHO KNOW that you don't swing that way be it from previous knowledge or after affirming at that moment and still trying to "convert". I know that some "straight" people do it (both men and women) but despite gay community being outraged by that i know for a fact that they also have aggressive "converters" among community.
In any case thank you for clarifying things, not my cup of tea and as i see serialization also made fans dislike it. I understand that it isn't an aggressive converter type manga a more like both of them coming to realization type one. I was just ticked about spreading knowledge of fluidity, due to it being potentially hazardous especially towards queer community.
Young lads and lasses who would keep these types of message at the back of their heads and trying to pursue actively something that was denied. (In general i see many mangas now have toxic messaging, especially romance genres, even more so with harem subgenre)
In my opinion it's all good as long as both parties remain civil even when in disagreement.
Sexuality can be fluid, I think, in some scarce individuals. I think people that try to "convert" others as you put it are partly confused because both sexuality and attraction exist on a spectrum, and some people's gender and/or strike zone can be broader or narrower than expected at first glance. I think it's in part why some people can be, let's say, insistent on their pursuit of a reluctant individual. An other part could be that some people, especially queer people, may feel desperate because their dating pool is narrower relative to straight people that are spoilt for choice in comparison (though it's very context dependant).
In the end I think it depends on the individual, and not on the community they belong to. After all for a long while now straights have continually tried to "correct" or "cure" the gay away, so it's not only the queer that are trying to expand. But they're a popular target nowadays, especially trans folks, and them fighting back for acceptance can sometimes have the opposite effect. The trans people being at the forefront now also plays out in the general view, and the sentiment that they're trying to "convert" more people to their side is also growing. So depending on where you're from you could be more or less prone to know of and be affected by the general discourse.
The fans of the original being down is more due to the shift in tone, and not the content itself, unlike with you, but to each their own, and you're a good sports about it. You're also right about some mangas having a problem glorifying toxic relationships and/or behavior, and from my reading experience it is actually prevalent in BL. It is an unfortunate trope (in my opinion) that does actually appeal to some people. I'm not kinkshaming, here, but to resonate with your points, I can only hope that those that enjoy those works don't emulate them in the real world. But I feel that those people that would would do it regardless of if they read those or not. They would read them because it appeal to them already and renforce their view, not the other way around.
In the end those issues are to be understood with the lens under which Japan treat those subjects, which is somewhat different than in the occident. Many of the tropes of the "traps" mangas for example don't necessarily trace back to transgenderism, and for a westerner reader it can be confusing to whom they're trying to appeal.
The generalisation is that japanese will prioritize societal harmony and homogeneity. In the context of queerness, that means that they're more supportive of trans people that conform to their apparent (chosen) gender than they would be to outright gay people. If you're a trans girl but you behave and look like a girl and seek a relationship with a guy, you're seen as conforming to the "norm" of being a girl, whereas being gay or lesbian is considered breaking the mold and standing out in comparison.
There's ton of history and cultural reasons, but it's the short of why "trap" culture is treated differently in japan and mostly originate from there pop culture wise. It's not that they're trying to convert people towards queerness, but more like it's easier in japan to draw gay stuff if the other guy look like a girl.
There's also the fact that for the most part a big portion of BL is aimed at women, and is supposed to be a fantasy, not realistic (with its own tropes and all), kinda like some dudes like to watch lesbian porn because they find it hot to see two girls together. The original market of gay mangas, or more like doujins, was not made with a male public in mind, it expanded afterwards.
In the end a good story is a good story, regardless of the form it takes. That's what matter the most to me, even though admitedly I enjoy queer targeted content.