That's now two chapters out of three where a woman points a knife at another woman. Given that this runs in Cune, I don't expect the knives to be used to draw any blood, but I do enjoy this pattern so far
I feel like we would be taking this more seriously if she actually had some kind of real involvement in her brother's death. In actuality, her involvement is close to none. The maid doesn't even know why it's "her fault" either. I wonder if most of the characters are unreasonable in the way they think lol
Hana feels guilty because Kaoru overworked himself for her (and Lily's) sake, which she sees as related to his death. This is not made explicit, but there were (and still are) expectations on women to "honor" the men in their lives, even when it doesn't make sense. Think e.g. a widow being expected to stay loyal to her dead husband, for a certain period of time. So, while it's obviously a goofy scenario (with all this crossdressing and knife pointing), Hana feeling the need to abnegate herself in order to "honor" her dead brother is not that surprising to me, especially in a story set a hundred years ago.