@Kevadu
True enough, but on the other hand, it could be the case that the other person has tried to communicate, yet isn't being listened to properly or taken seriously. The husband feels like it came out of nowhere, but it's possible that he was being blissfully ignorant in just wanting his "normal life".
I like to say that there's a difference between hearing and listening, the latter being the one where you actually reflect on what's being said. If we're just hearing without paying attention, things will catch us by surprise like that.
If the guy goes alcohol ape mode like that, I'd say the wife might be onto something.