@MilkTea089
I know you’re expecting me to see this another way but I still don’t. I totally can see he has some symptoms akin to PTSD (though I don’t like to self diagnose, personally). When you join the military or becomes a police officer you definitely go into those occupations with some expectation that gruesome things will happen around you. That’s why they usually ask if you’re prepared for that before hand. The same for a knight. You are definitely not expecting an easy life on that path. He was in a spar (I think) so that’s not expected to be a near death experience but it is expected that you can get hurt. His whole mindset is off because of a hand accident.
Since we are making comparisons that don’t really have anything to do with the story anyway, my boy Jamie Lannister got his dominant hand cut off and rather than sink into despair what did he do? “Oh okay. Let’s just learn to fight and function with my LEFT hand.”
His current mental state is why he shouldn’t be a duke right now. At least, not until it’s positive that he will improve, which there is no indication of at the moment. He can’t even hold a pen or meet with tons of people without freaking out. Also Lamia still basically carries the burdens of making decisions for everything because she’s more capable in that sector
If you go back to my previous comment. I didn’t call Lamia selfish. I called her irresponsible. Which she is. She’s only thinking about herself and her brother, but with the many privileges there are being an aristocrat, there is still one major responsibility: noblesse oblige. It is their duty to ensure the prosperity of those they rule. That’s why noble families have fiefs, etc. that they run and this helps augment their wealth when they collect taxes.
Also let’s go back to that statement about revenge for her brother’s injury. Lamia WASN’T there when it happened. Her brother is blurry on details (maybe because doesn’t remember? Maybe because f***ed up and did something to warrant his injury). She is basing her hatred largely on personal feelings and assumption. Idk I think I would be completely sure of the situation before I decide to completely send my house into disarray for revenge. Against the royal family, no less. If she screws up, she can get her whole house stripped of their lands and titles, but luckily the ML likely wouldn’t do that. Still, like I said irresponsible.
Edit: just read the most recent chapters, and I will amend that the brother does seem like he’s trying to lift a bit of his sister’s burdens (even thought she’s the one who is still making decisions). So he may have a chance to improve. Idk