To preface, taking the first step towards a rapport between parties is appreciated. Not like it's an easy thing to do either.
As for my position, I've
briefly described it previously, but I'd say that the main issue is tonality. There's probably less than five moderator actions carried out by you (Zeph) that I could find I actually disagree with; it's frankly just the language used when said moderator actions are carried out that results in disagreements and feelings of divide and even alienation.
This is an example of the most benign mod edit I could find:
Code:
Edit: Rule 5.1.5. Comment moderated, no further action taken against user.
I'm totally aware that users who attempt to push the limits exist, and I'd personally say that dabbing on them with brevity is widely accepted and in certain situations even encouraged. But in the end, those who sit in big chairs are held to different standards, for better or for worse. No one expects the colorful-username-people to be punching bags of course, but mean words do beget mean words in return, which is the moral of my TED Talk.