parenting is never a trivial role, after dealing with tiring day work, communications with your spouse, then you have to tend the kids learning something from you by playing/talk with them. its mentally and physically exhausting. yet there are ppl tends to look down on this role, thinking that just by sending their children to school, private lessons, food, clothes, its all done and proceed have a baby that they can show to relatives, then later having a question why their kids arent becoming what they expect