Holy shit.
The "female role" thing was weak, because, well, "neko" exists. And if he didn't know "neko" then "can I put it in?" should be sufficient...
If my wife said she wanted to "be the man" or wanted me to that would ruin the mood so fast...
Siiiiiigh... straight people writing about queers will always have "missed it by that much" moments.
But that dude really flipped his switch! ...though he's clearly the top in this relationship. Zing!