You are doing just a stellar job of advocating for the word "trap" to be completely shelved. Linking a Wikipedia article that doesn't actually use the word, suggesting a "smol bean uwu" alternative with a vaguer meaning, and then doubling down and calling it invoking a hate crime defense; they're going to build statues of you, you know?
I, personally, was surprised that the word "trap" was used here. It might be closer to the word that the character used, but I still would have expected "crossdresser" or "male crossdresser". Well-defined, well-known, inoffensive terms. When I want people to move away from a term I find offensive, those are the things I look for in an alternative. You know, because it's more important to me that they avoid the offending term than pick up one I find appealing.